Fucking Hell,what do I do?

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I'll try to keep this as clear as possible(please excuse any mistakes I have brain damage and it effects spelling and my punctuation)I'm having some serious issues with 2 of my friends.

The worst one(friend and problem)we've known each other for 30 years on and off.

This friend seems to have no filter what so ever,she is always shouting,using offensive language in public,in front of everyone anytime anywhere.I honestly can't explain it but imagine the worst things you could imagine someone saying and saying those things on loud speaker at a wake of all places and then that same person laughing at the top of they're voice at themselves.

We have something coming up that is very important for our family and she has already told me,yes told me not asked me that she thinks she is invited,she isn't!How the hell do I deal with that and the aftermath?

Friend 2 is like family to all of us,she has had an horrendous time,she lost her DH and is now sleeping with an old friend of his who is married,this is so not her but it is very inkeeping with this mans past behavior,I have tried talking to her and I am so worried for her but I don't know what to do,I've even asked her to imagine what would happen if her DH's family found out,they would disown her and that would kill her but she doesn't think that could ever happen.

If anyone that's read this and thinks they could offer some advice I would be so grateful.

I have a "friend A" - she's my very good friend, if one-to-one, but a massive embarrassment anywhere public or around anybody else. So I just stick to one-to-one communication, i.e. going for coffee. "Helpful" element is that she cannot stand my DH or some other friends of ours, so she is happy to not be invited.

Friend 1: "Hi Friend 1, I checked and you are not included on the invite."
Friend 2: "Whatever happens, I will always be there for you."

Tell friend one she isn't invited. If she's horrible to you about it, then that is your perfect excuse to end the friendship, or at least cool it off.

Thankyou so much for all of the replys

With friend 1 I'll try and explain it a bit better.

We went to the same secondary school but she is a bit younger than me(I thought 3-4 years younger than me but recently found out were almost the same age)and she would get bullied at school alot and I always stood up for her because I couldn't stand bullying(ironic,I do realize that now)and she'd follow me around sometimes.

We lost contact for years and then with DC at school we met up again and became friends,she was a bit like she is now when her DC were very small but nowhere near as bad.Her good points really did outweigh any bad,but now I dread seeing her.

I know for everyone that is around her including her DH when she behaves in that way that is that very Stiff upper lip British thing of not wanting to be the one that has to say anything,in the past I have pulled her up on things and I've been the only one to do so so far,I've even defended her DH when she's been putting him down very loudly with lots of people around and him stood right there infront of her!

I did care for her and her family,I loved them all and I'm still very close to one of her DC but even for me with all the patience in the world she has gone to far.

With the event I am the one organising it for another family member of mine and there will be friends,family friends(which they used to be included in)and family attending.

@3luckystars You cannot be serious? What awful advice to give!

Text her. Tel her she’s not invited. No excuses, no reasons, just ‘You’re not invited to this’. Don’t worry about offending her, she sounds like an offensive horrible cow.