Oh please help me not be so broody!

[ohsobroody]

Please hit me with your stories of the unappealing side of being a parent and help me feel a bit better about waiting for the right time!!

As a bit of background I had a horrible abusive ex for most of my twenties. We split and I wen through a period of being single and did some therapy and work with women's aid to assist me in not repeating the pattern.

In time I met a wonderful man who is absolutely kind, loving and respectful.
We both own our own homes and have good jobs, we have talked about the future and both want marriage/children.

We are still in the run stage of going on holidays and enjoying disposable income etc. We've agreed that down the line when my implant expires (jan 2021) we will try for a baby. With a view to being married by then. We haven't really done the traditional engagement more of a discussion that we both want that etc. We've now been together 19months if it's important.

But I have gone from little to no interest in being a mother to being obsessed. It's like now I'm in a relationship with a lovely guy who I adore and would be a wonderful father it's all I can think about!! He's 30 and I'm 29. Our timetable makes plenty of sense in terms of saving up more etc and being protected by marriage but now that it's on the table it's all I can think about.

Please regale me with your tales of sleepless nights to help me calm down and just enjoy this time

Bring a mother is wonderful but it is bloody hard work. Make the most of time to yourself and holidays where you can actually relax and get drunk if you want. Make the most of lie ins. 2 years isn’t long to wait just enjoy it being the two of you.also planning and paying for a wedding with kids will be a lot harder

I cant tell you anything about the unappealing side of being a parent as my child isnt here yet, im currently pregnant! But so far during this pregnancy I've felt sick none stop, all day and all night, I'm even on anti sickness pills and nothing has worked, the thought of the most random things and normal every day items are making me gag, so strange! I also don't fancy at type of liquid what so ever, so drinking has become a forced horrible chore in its self. My back hurts and I cannot get comfy no matter how I sit / lay. All my clothes I really like are getting very tight and I've got no energy. Yay!

I found my puppy more stressful than a baby!

Thats all I have! Have the baby. I havent slept properly in months and months. Couldnt give a shit, never been happier :)

You can have my two if you like.

First up is the permanently aggrieved four year old. Being told that she doesn't love me and she wants a new mummy was a real highlight of my day (my crime was announcing it was bedtime). Made me so glad I went through 46 hours of agony to bring her in to this world!

Or, you could have my five week old whose special talent is being able to piss, shit and vomit all over himself simultaneously, and lacks the ability to sleep for more than two hours a night.

You have a nice job and you don't have to work around school runs and holidays, paying everything you earn in childcare. You can holiday whenever you want. And holidays involve sunbathing, a good book, cocktails, sightseeing! Going out in the evening, doing adult stuff. Married women with children are unhappier than single childless women, apparently.