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DBS question (mental health/non neurotypical)

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Becca19962014 · 03/06/2019 16:01

Bit of an odd question which follows on from a thread I have in 30 days, which is here www.mumsnet.com/Talk/thirty_days_only/3598466-Struggling (if anyone has advice on that too then great!)

Basically I've been stalked and harassed by a man (for years) who, despite me contacting police I've been told I must put up with as he's so ill he cannot learn differently. He works as a volunteer support worker for a local charity my social worker wants me to go to for help instead them, despite saying no as I'm terrified I'll get him they've already been asking without my permission and he's said he's going to apply. He's apparently allowed to do this despite over six years of harassing/threatening and stalking me as that's due to his illness so won't show on any checks as nothing was done.

There's also a woman who wants to move into support work whose been abusive towards me - she's not neurotypical so again I've been told to put up with it as she can't help it.

Today I had an appointment about all formal support ceasing altogether and all support passing to a support worker. I'm terrified even to go out at the moment (see thread) but knowing that these people can become workers and pass DBS because their illness or other needs means they're allowed to behave this way means I'm refusing any worker as I thought DBS was meant to protect people from this sort of thing.

Can anyone advise?

I'm not allowed to choose my worker. That's done by the charity and obviously they've already considered him and possibly her - the charity know of the problems I've had but again I've been told it's just illness and "he's lovely" which he isn't when he's threatening to hurt me and using the defence of his illness as proof he can do what he likes, I don't know about her. Al I know is they don't do this to other people.

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Becca19962014 · 03/06/2019 16:06

I'm also worried other abusive people would be allowed to apply as they're ill as well.

Both are capable of working.

This isn't intended to offend anyone, it's literally about my experiences right now with these people, reporting them just made things much much worse for me as they interpreted what happened as a kind of permission.

Social worker doesn't care. They just want rid of seeing me.

I've already got abusive people in my life Im supposed to rely on - family I went NC with (they know about this yet directed me to them so they're back in my life) and can't cope with even more happening.

I've spent today sobbing so I hope this makes sense.

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Becca19962014 · 04/06/2019 10:14
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