Feel like I'm being a drama queen

[Kittykat93]

My husband has just told me he has 9k debt I had no idea about. I knew he had debt when we first got together which I helped him with. But I never expected this on top of everything else.

He's only told me because we are planning to move house and I was discussing how much budget we had.

I feel betrayed and let down. I have married this man and he knows everything about me. How could he hide this from me? Another part of me thinks I'm being overly dramatic. I don't know. Please help

Is there a debt thread I'd be better off posting on? Please tell me if so !!

No answers, but we regularly go through this cycle. We now run totally separate bank accounts and I've got my own secret savings account to tide us over should the worst happen. Only you can decide if you can go forwards like this, knowing its likely to happen again. For me the good bits outweigh it, but I know that's not the case for everyone.

It is a huge deal!!!

He could drag you down into debt with him...

Thank you so much for the replies. We do have separate bank accounts thank god. I just don't know if I can get over the lies. He's been lying for months, maybe years. I feel like I've been cheated on

I'd feel the same. What's he spent it all on? Sounds like you bailed him out once but he didn't learn from that.

What a betrayal. I'm so sorry you have to shoulder this. I can understand your upset. It's deceitful