Do you think he could be dangerous?

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Don't know if I am overreacting. Am in the early stages of getting to know a single dad. He asked me over and we were getting on great, no shenanigans, but having a good night. He has a cat, I had said I was allergic. But it kept coming up to me, and I was petting it because I do like them, they just make my eyes itchy, make me sneeze etc.The cat was sticking its ass in my face, I was a bit "Whoah, tmi!" and he picks the cat up and throws it up in the air!! It landed on its feet, and was ok, it just looked like it's feelings were hurt and walked away.
I was really shocked at this behaviour.
The cat doesn't seem scared of him, it came back again and again.
He is nice to his kids and seems laid back apart from this.

I wouldn't want anything to do with a person who treated an animal like that.

He could have gently picked it up and gently put it down elsewhere.

He threw it.

I’d have been very angry and left immediately telling him what I thought and I would never see him or speak to him again.

I don’t know about dangerous, but I wouldn’t want to be with someone who was cruel to an animal.

Thanks for responding. I've always thought that how someone treats animals (and children) was a good indication of their character. I am not a cat lover, but I respect animals, and this was definitely disrespectful. 😐

Cruel, and a weird vibe of 'showing off' to you. Run, run like the wind.

This man is
A) A bastard to animals.
And potentially also...
B) Violently over-reacting to your protests in order to make a point.

Run.

Cruel, and a weird vibe of 'showing off' to you. Run, run like the wind.

This absolutely nails it. Abusers often run "tests" on the woman they have lined up to be their next victim - see which boundaries they can push without you saying "hang on a fucking minute..." It's part of the boiled frog thing - they start small and gradually ramp it up, and they like to establish early on whether you can be groomed and gaslighted into putting up with shitty behaviour (I don't think they do it on a conscious level, but on some sort of weird subconscious level they're often brilliant armchair psychologists, knowing exactly which buttons to press on their victims, and also which buttons to try out early on to establish whether a new woman in their life has sufficiently fragile boundaries that they can abuse her with relative ease).

This may well be (isn't necessarily but I wouldn't chance it) such a test. He's effectively asking "are you sufficiently ensnared yet that I can do really shit things and you'll put up and shut up?"

^^ This.

Also it’s the kind of shit someone aggressive might pull when they’re annoyed with you voicing an opinion.

It’s a bit, “oh you don’t like cats? Well I’ll JUST THROW IT IN THE FUCKING AIR SHALL I?”

Bad behaviour on his part. I'd be wary.

I wouldn’t be interested in a man that acted that way towards an animal.

Run. And take the cat with you!

Hope nope nope! I have absolutely no issues with people not liking animals, but by fuck I’d have nothing to do with that wanker. He’s testing your boundaries, OP.

Guaranteed that's the thin end of the wedge. Massive red flag to me.

Ooh sounds like a red flag. You don't treat animals like that.