Not a fan of Mariella's (The Guardian) advice today.

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https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2019/jun/02/dear-mariella-frostrup-my-friends-husbands-keep-hitting-on-me?CMP=ShareiOSAppp_Other

Her column today- a lady is having unwanted advances from her friends' husbands.

Mariella's advice includes such nuggets of wisdom as...
Nice problem to have!
Are you guilty of enjoying the lure of your own allure?

I've disagreed with her advice before (the teenage girl bullied by her trans friend was advised to think about what her bully is going through), but think this advice is off the mark this time too.

It reminds me of the joke problems page that private eye used to run.

She often gives dreadful advice.
i think she enjoys being a contrarian - just for shits and giggles.

Her advice is invariably awful. I used to read the column just so I could get cross with it but now it is almost a parody of itself in its terribleness.

I really like Mariella Frostrup when she talks about music / culture etc.
But her replies on this column are always shit.
There was one not long ago where a man admitted to preferring cross-dressing alone to being intimate with his wife
Her reply was "do more cross dressing and meet other like minded people online" !!

As PP has said, it's unlikely she even writes the replies herself. Usually these "agony aunt" columns are created by more than one person behind the scenes. They're just using her "brand".

Actually, I have a first hand experience of this, and I hope she doesn't mind me mentioning this, but I worked with Sam Roddick (founder of Coco de Mer lingerie shop) when she was doing a sex advice column for Marie Claire, she basically said in frustration I give them my answers, they tell me they can't use it, and they write what they want. But she kept her name to it because it was good for her personal image and she got paid a bit for it.

I suppose even if that's the case Mariella Frostrup is still endorsing this crappy advice in her name.

Her advice is always awful!

Interesting comments now they are open, not many agree with MF. Awful advice, to be honest, her advice generally is.

In the hashtag /me too era it seems very strange "advice "TBH. Surely these men are "Trying it on" with the LW ,and by doing so in front of their wives are giving off a clear signal that they dont respect women at all.I doubt Mariella would welcome this kind of behaviour !. This sort of thing is odious and creepy .At a meal out with my friend , a perfect stranger (we were sitting at a long table)kept leaning over my supper ,and making remarks about my Chicken Breast meal until practically in my face!.NOT a nice problem to have! This kind of thing has happened in many occasions and is not pleasant at all!.Maybe the letter writer should spend less time with these idiots, and have a look for some new pals?.Incidentally how come the wife of this man doesnt know what hes up to (Or doesnt want to know)!?.Definitely do not be alone with him at all!

Never liked her since reading something she wrote years ago about how blondes were perceived to be dumb or suchlike, and how this affected her, giving the impression of being hard done by. . Not enough to stop bleaching/highlighting though...

Awful, awful advice . I did wonder if Thanks for pointing out that there is nothing about you that anyone should find attractive. Grey hair, post-menopausal, small breasts and sensible clothes – what’s to like? is hitting a bit close to home - if that's hoe she is seeing herself to an extent and do wants to point out that she is still a sexy goddess who make men fall at her feet.

At least the comments seem to get it.

In the unlikely event that the woman concerned is on here: tell him no. Quietly if necessary, if they are still in the same room. "NO I am NOT interested. NO, I never will be. And YES, if you touch me once more I WILL tell your wife." He won't know you're bluffing if said with enough quiet anger.

And tell your husband once it I'd done, although in a jokey way. It happened, it's dealth with, move on. That way he knows you aren't encouraging it.

Sorry for the numerous typos.

Glad the comments show more sense than Mariella.

(Too often) the Guardian becomes a parody of itself...

I've always thought her advice column is staggeringly lacking in emotional intelligence and perception.

She's now on Twitter being very hurt/amazed that everyone thinks her advice is dangerous and crap.

I'm not sure what's more embarrassing: Her advice or the follow-up tweet.
I'm just as 'histrionic' over the tweet actually.

@ginghamtablecloths
'I'm afraid that Mariella, like many in the public eye is over-rated'.
Too bloody true.
It's as if some people get themselves in the papers or on the radio or telly, and then they can talk any old twaddle they like and get paid for it.