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Over opinionated MIL

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biscuitandketchup · 01/06/2019 23:26

I'm getting really fed up with my over opinionated mil. She made a comment today about the 'pile of old shoes' I have in the porch. I told her I need time to sort them out and she went on about how no one needs to keep junk in the house. She came by and dropped my ds home a little later on and comented again about the shoes and how she's going to set up a stall outside the house whilst we're away tomorrow night! I blatantly ignored her and she carried on. I still said nothing as i would have blown my top if I had started.

I feel like I'm not good enough for her son and that i dont meet her standards.

Well sorry, but if she hadn't mollycoddled her kids then I wouldnt have to do all the housework myself on top of a full time job (which I dont believe she has ever had) and more or less single handedly raising my son as my partner is never home! My son is fed and is always clean and tidy so any other jobs can wait until I have time in MY life in MY house. I'd much rather spend my time with my son than constantly cleaning like she does!!

Rant over!!

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GreenTulips · 01/06/2019 23:29

Then say ‘oh that’s DH’s job’ I’ll let him know you mentioned it

Repeat ..... seriously do it!

Molly333 · 02/06/2019 00:04

I would be honest and say i have no time as i work hard raise a child and do everything at home on my own !

Pinkprincess1978 · 04/06/2019 12:55

I agree say it's your DH's job.

My DH does a lot compared to some but it's not 50/50 in terms of housework but his mum was pretty much a stay at home mum - she did some part time cleaning but it was flexible and fitted around the children so she could take them with her or change days or miss days if they were ill. She then did 100% of the house work or traditional 'women's work' and her DH worked shift work and 2nd jobs and did the 'mans jobs' ie diy, gardening etc.

When we first moved in together she made about me making sure he had clean pressed shirts for work. I replied something along the lines of I'm sure he will manage. She asked me did I not want him to look nice? I said I couldn't care less, if he wants cleaned pressed shirts he will make sure he has them 😂

It's taken many years but I do think she understands that her son has as much responsibility as me at ensuring the house is clean and tidy as I do and such comments stopped years ago.

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