I’ll do a bbq love, you put your feet up!

[BarbarAnna]

Anyone else dealing with the aftermath, having commis cheffed their way through the ‘feet up’ period?

Pick better partners

Depends what you mean by 'better'. I don't actually give a shit that my partner doesn't cook often and wouldn't pick a partner based on their cooking skills.

For the record, I usually cook and he cleans up. Yesterday, he did all the shopping after getting out the BBQ, buying the gas, mowing the lawn, setting up the paddling pool and helping me with some DIY I struggled to do on my own. I ended up doing all the BBQing as he was busy doing starters and sides that he knew the kids enjoyed. He hardly ever gets to cook due to me finishing earlier so relished the opportunity. He is just a very messy and slightly stressy cook! He didn’t really call me ‘love’ and he fell asleep after as he has been starting work at 5am and is often on his laptop gone midnight.

It was a lighthearted post and, having had conversations with friends and family over the years, one that might make others chuckle. However, clearly our many years of happiness and tough times needs to be thrown out of the window, he is a child that I should never have married and need to divorce!

Honestly folks, I couldn’t care less what you think but this is not AIBU!

We did a bbq yesterday too. DP went to shops to buy stuff, did all the prep and cooking. I took the plates outside and drank cider with the neighbours. Eldest DD tidied up afterwards.

Sorry for the boring contribution, I just thought everyone needed to know.

Honestly folks, I couldn’t care less what you think but this is not AIBU!

Perhaps then you should have added to your OP that you neither expected nor wanted replies. Or, more likely, do you really mean that you only wanted replies which agreed with you?

It’s Chat. Chill the fuck out.

God, some people on here are just put to be nasty. What’s the point?

Mine’s a bbq fiend, now it’s warm, it’ll be on constantly. Yesterday, he shopped, prepped, cooked. I cleared, it’s only fair. I’m lucky in that due to work hours, my dh does the vast majority of the cooking.

Well OP, if he does all that work no wonder he didn't clear up after the BBQ. Have you ever heard of division of labour (nowt to do with gender, btw)?
Sounds like you're the child and he's the adult in the relationship.

Eh what? DH cooks most days and tidies into the dishwasher as he goes. Like a functioning human being. Same when he BBQs.
On the very rare occasion that I do the cooking I don't need a frigging nap to recover from it.

What a silly thread.
'' My husband took a nap after cooking a BBQ.....''
and you would never do such a thing??
Well, maybe you should!!
I doubt your H would start a conversation , let alone a thread if you did!