My and DH been married for 16 years. Things not been great recently regarding his temper. He gets frustrated, throws things and hits things (not people) though a few times things have bounched off things and hit me or DS (who is 4)
He says it’s all down to me why he does it. Anyway over the last year I have ordered some things over the Internet clothes and such with my own money and not told him as I was worried about his reaction. I even bought a toy for DS and told him I won it in a competition (stupid I know) so he wouldn’t go off about it.
Anyway it turns out the last year he has been monitoring my eBay and emails and knew all about the toy and the other things but has waited till the other morning to throw it all in my face.
He says I am a lier and needs help. When I ask him about the anger issues they are a product of my lying about the clothes and such.
He has no patience with DS and will think nothing of swearing or hitting a wall or breaking one of his toys in front of him. He is also addicted to porn which he thinks I don’t know about.
I walked out a few days ago and am staying at my dads with DS. My dad has said he will buy our house outright and I will pay him rent. I currently earn a good wage.
DH however earns very little and would not be able to support himself.
I went back to try and discuss options to see we could get help together.
When I asked if he would sign the house over to me and my dad would buy it he accused me of plotting and again said everything is my fault.
I asked if he would be willing to get help for his issues and he said no.
He then burst out crying and said his world was falling apart and it’s my fault.
I left and am seeing a solicitor on Monday. Am I doing the right thing