I’m sad

[Bodear]

I don’t really know why I’m posting. I’m not suicidal and I’m not in trouble. I don’t have any real problems other than after a big change life isn’t quite how I thought it would be. I’m sad.

Its ok to be sad. We are here and can listen.

Thank you. My dp and I have been through a big change and we don’t seem happy anymore. I’m lonely and I don’t know how to fix it.

What's the big change is it anything we can help with? I'm sad too, but I know it's not forever things always get better

And I’ve realised that I make a lot more effort in some relationships than the other person does (not meaning dp, other relationships). It’s made me feel that I’m probably not worth very much to them.

I’m like you,feel sad & don’t know what to do. I have 3 kids aged 5 & under. I’m alone all the time,no family. I dred half term as were home everyday. I’m too scared to go out with them all incase anything happens as I breastfeed my youngest & cant fully give my attention to all 3 at once esp if we’re out. I know my older 2 are bored & I myself feel suffocated being indoors so much. Any advise?

Thanks Popcorn why are you sad?
We’ve moved away. I’m trying to be positive and happy but it seems to have shifted our dynamic. We just row all the time.

You sound nice OP. We're here. I used to make a lot of effort with people who ultimately couldn't/wouldn't give a toss about me, cutting them off was a sad process and it still gives me guilt but it was part of a midlife crisis/shakeup and I'm better for it.

Also I find this time of year stressful, not sure why. Light levels messing with seratonin levels, lots of school holidays to organse, sort of losing myself perhaps.

Samaa do you have any outside space at home? Have you tried local playgroups? There might be more adults that would be extra eyes for you? I don’t mean to patronise you if you’ve thought of that - just trying to be practical.

Samaa I remember those years well. It was hard. Older kids are lovely, so much easier and more happiness. Please go easy on yourself. "Everyone in bed, fed, not dead" used to be my mantra!

@Vanellope thank you - that’s a lovely thing to say (and made me cry for some reason). These are close family - they’re not awful. They just let me do the running. I sometimes wonder how long they would wait to call me if I didn’t call them.

Same, OP, same. I'm not bitter (well perhaps just a bit), I had some tough times with premature DC and they just ... didn't lift a finger. They live far away but not a card, nothing. People I'd met twice locally were more supportive!
V low contact these days.

Bless you. It's hard but it happens and the good thing is, the sadness will lift.

I think I feel lost and tired. Fed up of being the one that always has to make the first move to make-up but too sad about not getting on not to.