I'm parked outside the supermarket and don't know if I should go in to get morning after pill re second pregnancy and shortish gap

[OutsideTesco]

We have one amazing one year old and have always wanted two children so they have a brother or sister. I hope we are lucky enough to have another one, we really want one.

There's a possibility of pregnancy and I need to decide now if I'm going to get MAP. My DC is asleep in the back of the car and I don't know what to do.

I think a slightly longer gap would be better for my DC based on the research I've done but I know all families are different. They also have surgery due but we don't know when yet - if it's next year the last thing I want is them upset by a sibling before that, on the other hand if it's in two years time it would be better to have a 1 year old sibling at that point.

All that I do is for the best interests of my DC1, and I'm terrified that if I do get pregnant right now is it the wrong thing for them. On the other hand I'd hate to do this and then find we can't have children later and always regret it.

I know I'm being dramatic and ridiculous but I'm in tears and don't know what to do. Help!

I'm also still breastfeeding so a bit uncomfy about taking Levonelle even though everything I've read says it's fine.

I might take some OPKs as if I've ovulated Levonelle won't work anyway. There's no possibility of copper IUD as everywhere I've called has a wait list.

Try and remember that you have no idea if the unprotected sex you had will result in pregnancy- you’re way too early for any of that. It’s just a late contraceptive pill! You can try for a baby when you’re emotionally ready.

You're right and it took us a year first time round so I am being a bit silly really

What does your partner think?

If you feel like you could handle another young child then go for it, if you don't go in and get the pill. Doesn't mean you will get pregnant if you don't take it though.

DH says he would like another child, but doesn't mind waiting and said he would even understand if I didn't want anymore. He's wonderful.

He also thinks we should let nature take it's course this time and not take MAP, but also be careful after this

Well if you are both totally undecided you could always let fate decide 🤷‍♀️

Nothing to stop you buying the MAP, taking it home and deciding later whether or not to take it after you’ve thought it over. This way, lack of availability during the 72h window won’t be a worry. The fact you’ve rung around to try and get a coil suggests you are serious about not being ready just yet.

I think the fact you can't decide is telling.

Don't rush into anything.

I agree with a pp about running around looking for a coil meaning you possibly aren't really ready right now.

I also think another pp's advice re getting the map and mulling it over might not be a bad idea.

The map is highly unlikely to affect future fertility