Babysitting problems

[Libby19]

Hi everyone I'd like some advice.. my daughter is 3months old and my dad and mum(separated) are dying to babysit her but my partner thinks it's not fair on his mum (she lives an hour away) so if anything was to go wrong it would take ages to get there, everytime we see her the baby cries when she picks her up and she never makes the effort to come see her but my partner always makes the effort to go down and see his mum.We havent been out since the baby has been born it's kinda ruined the spark. Any advise as I dont want it to ruin the relationship either. (his mum is always right in his mind too)thanks x

Could you maybe say that babysitting will take place at your home whoever does it, as it’s easier to have all the baby stuff on hand? That way it leaves the ball in her court, if she doesn’t want to travel it’s up to her.
My DH and I didn’t go out alone til DD was 5 months old, I don’t think it’s that strange especially if family don’t live round the corner or you have a baby that’s tricky to settle- both true in our case!

I told her my mother in law that she could come up at anytime to see the baby as shes free on a Wednesday and Thursday but she never does thing is she always wants to bring her dog but the dog is aggressive and always barks at the baby which I dont like and she never tells it off properly she goes no and gives it a treat! She wants to baby sit her down her house but I just dont trust her dog or her abit ( as one time she had her for an hour or so and she left the baby in a dirty nappy)everytime my parents want to baby sit I have to make an excuse or say were staying there too x

It’s your house, if you don’t want a dog there that is your call. If that means MIL is not able to babysit, well, that’s life. And it shouldn’t stop your parents from babysitting. But I think you would be wise to get DP to support your views on the dog, then you can present a united front.

I dont see why my parents cant babysit either and I always tell him about the dog and he gets funny as he loves the dog and he says "oh honey(the dog) wont harm the baby or shes a good dog) I cant get a word in when I try to talk to him about his mum and the dog but he just dont listen x

Ask for babysitting to happen at yours.
Both mothers can take turns and no dogs.
You really need your partner to support you on keeping that dog away from the baby.

That’s very worrying about the dog, it’ll be even worse in it’s own home!

It's really hard to keep that dog away as my partner wont listen and everytime we go on a family holiday caravaning with them the dogs there so I try to keep the baby away from her and so does the mil sometimes but all she says now and then if the baby is on her lap is "oh watch the babies feet" as the dog can jump up and nip them" x

Shes much worse when were down there as they treat her like royalty even if she does wrong and everytime the baby cries she barks!

I think you need to be firm, I certainly wouldn’t want a potentially aggressive dog near my baby.

Jeez, has she not heard about that poor lad ho was killed by a dog, also in a caravan recently?! I agree with whoever said babysitting only in our own home too, isn’t that the easiest option anyway!?

Nope havent heard of that! It is the easy option but the baby is use to my dads and mums house anyway and if I leave them with her for an hour or so I make sure the baby has everything ready but there pubs and stuff in my dads area and mums more things to do down in their area too for couples x

Nip the baby’s feet?

A 3 month old baby?

She’s an irresponsible idiot.

Yeah the dog nearly nipped(pinched with her teeth) her nieces baby before it's a good job her sister spotted the dog as she was gonna do it but still scared her niece and all my mil did was say no! And that was it no slap didn't put her out just a simple no in a soft voice! The dog always tries to get my babies feed as soon as she cries she launches at the my baby and my mil has to get up quick! X