Husbands 😡

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Ok so I’m sitting in a lovely pub garden with my OH and another couple of friends. My OH announces how lucky I am as I get to walk in any hotel or pub in the Cotswolds and it’s free. (He means because HE pays) He then proceeds with “ And you get £400 allowance a month). Let me point out, I still have 3yo at home. She goes to nursery 2 days and a morning a week. I teach and do what I can but obviously difficult at the moment. Am I unreasonable to be angry that anyone with young children needs some money and that he was trying to shame me in front of our friends? He regularly does this. I’ve asked him nicely to stop but he doesn’t get it. Thank you for reading.

I'd be embarrassed of his behaviour because I can guarantee the people he said it in front of would have been thinking he was a total dickhead, even if they didn't say it or laughed along at the time.
As per PP, you need to firmly tell him that his behaviour was out of order, and if he does it again have a back up comment along the lines of £400 is cheap for full time child care and house keeper... and if he doesn't think so a divorce bill would be much higher... I doubt he'd do it again in front of people.

Offer to swap. You go full time and he can go part time.

PS. I'm trying to change the title to husband.... But it won't let me 😬

Op have you name changed partway through the thread?

My husband doesn't do that. Your husband sounds like an arse.

Yes. I'm new to this. 😬sorry

Sounds like a complete wanker. Next time he does that, take the keys and leave him in the pub with the others. It’s extremely patronising of him. As others say, don’t ASK him to stop saying it, tell him. I’d be making a big fuss in front of your friends about him playing the big man from the 1950s, making out he’s out earning while being generous to little wifey at home. Who’s allowing him to work and earn by looking after HIS children? Oh yeah, that would be YOU, OP! Don’t let him forget that.