Mother in law visiting - feeling anxious

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and I don't know why.

She's nice. We are on good terms.

I actively encouraged her to come, and for her, DH and DS to go out for the day whilst I'm at work.

I just feel anxious. I don't know why.

I usually have my house in order and that's kind of down to me and DH goes with the flow. I feel out of control.

I like mine but still have to triple check the house, food, cleaning etc

When’s she visiting?

She's here now. Arrived yesterday.

I am very anal about my house. Hate dishes left - they belong in the dishwasher ready for the next load.

I remember when she visited when DS was about 2 weeks old. I went mental when she boiled and peeled eggs in the house. I was 27 and hated eggs. Couldn't abide the smell. I blame the hormones.

She's much more relaxed than I am about things. I suppose I'm quite uptight in comparison.

Are you anxious when any other people visit? Or is it just MIL? Could be a general anxiety about other people being in your space.

Well mine is very relaxed about certain things I find it difficult to deal with, so I do understand.

I find it easier to just bite my tongue about most of it, like pilling stuff next to the door and focus on the one or two things that really bother me (dirty dishes on the draining board).

I try to understand that different people have different standards and values.... and if it’s really bad I tend to have a drink or have a quiet work with husband. But I’m known for my cheery “let’s have a quick clean up” ....

When my friend and her kids came the other week I wasn't bothered in the slightest Could have been the prosecco helping us along though

I did jokingly warn her not to make my house smell... she said she never had and I told her about the "egg incident"

They will pile dishes next to the sink and wash it all at once whereas that drives me crackers and I wash up and pout away after each meal or not, load it all into the dishwasher.

I recognise you OP and from reading your other threads I think you’re anxious in general aren’t you?

Sadly so NoSauce :(

I’m sorry OP. I hope you have your time with MIL is a nice one.

Sorry that made no sense.

lol @NoSauce - I just worry she will judge. She never does. When I sobbed my heart out when my son wouldn't breast feed when she was visiting, she told me no matter and to get some formula. She's a good'un really

Is it possible to have a glass of something alcoholic at some point? Just to help you relax a little?

@Geraniumpink I might get us a bottle to share this evening.