Hi all, just wondering if you have any ideas how to navigate this with out it all going wrong.
Sister and I have never been super close, although we have spent a lot of time together in our teens early twenties (mainly partying ect..)
We didn’t grow up together. Don’t really want to go in to details as it’s outing.
We’re in our forties now.
She moved away and had a child. We kept in sporadic touch. A couple of years ago she went through a really bad time. It was catastrophic for her. She had really bad mental health through it and we had a big fall out because of her aggressive behaviour.
Any way she has moved back, relatively calmer, still recovering I’d say and trying to build her life back. We trying to build bridges and move on as really we now have no other shared family. I’m glad we are trying. I’ve missed her, I’d say it was more me that cared for her than her me.
But I’m not keen on her son who has just turned nine. He is really rough with my dd who is 7. Twice he has been at my home and damaged it some way whilst playing, actually knocking a hole in the wall, pulling curtains down by wrapping him self in them. Not listening when I ask him not to take drink or food in areas that have carpet. Pretending to push dd in to the road (no cars coming) pushed her off the stairs and she hurt herself, breaking expensive games ect.. He was actually very dangerous and I did intervene at one point
He has been through a lot. And I see a damaged child. I think he is emotionally immature for his age and is having trouble in school. I don’t want to be having to pull him up in stuff all the time as I don’t want to make things awkward for me and my sister. When he is acting up she is embarrassed but doesn’t really deal with the issue.
We have some days planned out and some here but I don’t want him to hurt my dd or damage my home anymore. I know if I said anything to her she would go ballistic and not speak to me and I don’t want that as I don’t want her to be on her own any more.
Any ideas?