WWYD here. Would you ever give relationship advice to....

[MondayChild]

your children if they are not asking?

I've lived a bit , got married at 30 and am now in my early 60s.

I've got a gorgeous DD who is bright, pretty, kind, good job, went to a top uni, is buying her own home and single after a couple of long term relationships ended.

I know she is hoping to find a partner and have children. I know she is sensible BUT at her age I did panic about my own bio clock and got married not really being sure that my DH ticked enough boxes and my marriage had a lot of ups and downs.

I would hate to think she ended up with 'anyone' for the sake of having children.

I've never had a serious conversation with her about 'what to look for in a life long partner' or warn her about men who may see her as a good catch because of her job and home. But it will come over as preachy. Any ideas? or leave well alone?

It's not personal as she hasn't met someone yet, so yes, it's quite okay to talk generally about the kind of man to go for. I keep a bank of "women I know" who I draw on when talking to my own daughter - disaster has befallen those women at every turn

How old is she?

She is dating, semi casually. Not met any of them yet.

I'd have a chat about what it's like trying to meet someone - just look on the online dating thread here to find some examples. I'd ask her what kind of man she's going for and to think of her ideal man - who would it be?

I was reading Michelle Obama's book recently and what I liked was that she could tell that Barack was a really decent guy even before she started to go out with him. I think it's a really good idea to have someone in mind (perhaps a relative or a friend's boyfriend) who she knows treats their partner well, and to compare future boyfriends to them.