Hi, I've name changed for this as it's possibly outing. I'm looking for advice regarding a friend of mine. I'll call her Sarah. I've known Sarah for roughly 20 years, we used to be extremely close friends but around 6 years ago our friendship tailed off.
We kept in contact every few months but the closeness was gone. But when we met up it was like we'd never been apart. But we'd go months between contact.
To give some background, Sarah is a professional and lives at home with her parents. I am newly married and have four children, my youngest is my partner's. I am a SAHM.
A few years ago I was a single mum of two, pregnancy and on full benefits. Twice in 2 months I was called in for a compliance meeting in the job centre. Someone had reported me for living with a partner ( my children's father). We did not live together, but would come down a couple of times a week, but a few months before this meeting, we were finished, he wasn't seeing me at all. Naturally this caused a lot of stress for me and as a result had a huge row with my children's father and we haven't spoke since.
My problem is that I am suspicious of this friend for causing me these problems. I met her recently for the first time in 18 months and she got straight down to it. She asked me what my husband earns, what benefits I'm entitled to, does the job centre still go on at me to get a job?
Should I ask her if it was her that reported me? Or should I cut her out of my life?
I'm sorry this has been so long but I didn't want to drip feed.