I feel lost and bewildered 😕

[Foolsandhorses]

I will try and keep this short otherwise it will go on forever!.. I met my ex partner 3 years ago when I was at a low ebb , I have a six year old daughter from a previous relationship that was very violent so I moved my daughter and are lives to a different city .... instead off concentrating on myself or daughter I met someone rather quickly and are relationship was very intense .... I was so blinded I didn’t see the red flags at first .... he was controlling very judgemental and didn’t seem interested in my daughter .... then one day four weeks ago my daughter said mummy why u always upset if he makes u unhappy kick him out!! So the next day I did he was shocked and didn’t understand why I kicked him out .... I was financially dependent on him (crazy I know) so now I’m on benefits trying to work out where I go from here !? i have no qualifications no work experience I have looked at open University but I don’t really understand it all I’ve looked at joining the police etc ..... I’m 30 years old and I feel like a complete fuck up!! I have zero confidence and I’m finding it harder and harder to go outside .... any advice would be great

The only way is up!

You have a god insight into what happened. Often women that are abused feel lost on their own and go straight into another relationship which also turns out to be a bad one.

But now you have gathered your strength together and the world is now your oyster. Well, kind of!

Maybe have a look at different training schemes in your area, not just college and see what appeals to you.

At 30 you are still young and can train and work towards a career.

With the police it used to be that you had to go for a residential course for a few weeks in Hendon, not sure if that’s the case now but would you have child care?

Yeah I have really good support from my mum she does my childcare if I need too ... thanks guys for advice 🙂