12 month old has decided sleep is for losers. Help!

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He’s wide awake (again) chatting away, ready to play. He’s been doing this for weeks. It’s early tonight, usually 2am is more his style. He doesn’t always want to party. Some nights he just wants to scream. Then he’s up for that day at the crack of dawn. So while I’d much rather be asleep after his 4.30 am start this morning, I’ll take happy playing over screaming blue murder.

He cries all day too. Very little pleases him. At least he naps quite well so I get a bit of a break. I know it’s probably just a phase. But it’s a bloody horrible one and blind sided me as he was so happy and content the last year.

He’s desperate to move and can’t really crawl yet but keeps trying. Probably to do with that, right? Or has he just morphed into a sleep stealing daemon intent on destroying us?

Any tips on how to stop me and DH going insane. He often wakes up his 3 yo sister too, just to add to the fun.

There is a stinky regression at 12 months, I remember it well with Ds1. But, silver lining was that after the regression passed he started sleeping through for the first time in his life. He self night weaned and was a dream to get to bed.

Now he's in the 24 month regression while the baby is in the 4 month one and I just want to put them both in the shed and be done with it

Have you tried the usual, tweaking naps and bedtime in case he's over/under tired?

Hey, you're son is right. Snoozes for losers. I'm nearly 4 so I'm all grown up and know stuff like this.
It's important to remember that kindly waking up early to prove you didn't raise a loser is tiring, so you have to be extra nice all day because being tired makes us cranky. That's your problem, not ours.
Sick it up Buttercup, you ain't sleeping through til we're at least 12

We’ve had a bit of a play around, but have been away on holiday this week so it’s been a bit hard to keep a steady routine. We go home tomorrow so hopefully can get back to a better routine and try tweaking from there.

It’s starting to wear me down though so I really hope we can solve it/it passes soon. My DH really isn’t coping well. He can be heard muttering arsehole through the screaming.

@SleepingStandingUp thanks for being so frank and giving it to me straight! I’ll kiss sleep goodbye for a good while yet then.

I might have to divert the money for his ISA into spa treatments for me to counteract the haggard look I’m rocking as a result.

Momma likes Spa days, that sounds like a good plan. He can play with his Daddy!!!

I found it does ebb and flow, so he'll get into a good sleep pattern, I'll just catch up and he'll find a new trick. I'm not very thrilled when were arguing at 4.30 am if he can get up yet!!
Just keep doing what you're doing tweak naps etc. They have to sleep eventually and then if you're home, nap too.

Or you and DH alternate a nap when you're both home x

Maybe too many naps in the day? Its not something like teething waking him?

684 month year old here has also decided sleep is for losers! Send him round, I’ll chat and sing to him and read him stories while you kip.
Maybe the soothing snoring of my dh will have a magical effect on your son. It’s certainly not working for me.

Something I read here when DS was tiny: this too shall pass.

It's shit whilst you're going through it. He'll probably sleep better once he's mobile.

Hopefully he can master crawling soon and then wears himself out with activity enough to sleep all night. When did his older sibling crawl? Similar sleep patterns at that age or is he forging his own path? Good luck

I woke up to a screaming 13 month old at 4:00 this morning. He had been sleeping through the night, this is a relatively new development. He has also started screaming a lot. He seems to think it is the best way to communicate. We are trying to teach him to point things, but I will be very glad when he starts talking.

He was awful today. And you can tell as it’s the crawling as he had an utter meltdown when he wanted something and couldn’t get himself too it! His sister was walking by her 1st birthday. So he is totally different.

@dogdogcat I hear you on the screaming to communicate. He’s definitely decided that’s the way to get what he wants. My ears are starting to ache!

I’m dreading tonight.

Things changed pretty much on his first birthday, he was lovely when he was 11 months

I have a 9 month old GD who knew sleep was for losers from birth. Tends to sleep better for me, think 3 and a 1/4 hour morning snoozes, sleeping from 9 - 6 am but then I don’t have to get up for work. Mum and dad are like zombies. I’m hoping she changes by her first birthday.

Buckets of sympathy...sleep is for wimps according to DS1 and DS2 prefers to paw at my face in his sleep having arrived in our bed at about 2am when I’m too sleepy to fight it.

It does pass. And if he slept well before this is probably a blip. Otherwise you can join the little club we have at my house...

Honestly, wrap him up well, put him a basket with a return label, send a few toys and a sippy cup, and I’ll keep him company!
I’ll post him back in the morning, jobs a goodun