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Pregnancy simulator

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Manc1993 · 25/05/2019 05:24

I have volunteered to use the pregnancy simulator to get a feel of what it was like for my partner through pregnancy and giving birth. I am petrified and terrified because I have seen u tube videos of other father's to be and they were in agony. I have a low pain threshold so I don't think I will get far. Please can you give me an idea of what I will be going through and how to handle the pain

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cranstonmanor · 25/05/2019 05:54

I am petrified and terrified

Good simulator then, only you can stop it when you want to .

cranstonmanor · 25/05/2019 05:55

I meant 'only differance is'

olderthanyouthink · 25/05/2019 05:56

After I had my baby, we stuck my TENS machine to people to see how it affected them. It hurt me quite a lot but for some of the people it barely bothered them, just made them a bit twitchy. Did hurt my DP and when I put it back on I couldn't go near the top level (far too painful and kinda caused flashbacks)

I gave birth without any pain relief, it hurt a lot but I survived, I also had to focus a lot so there was a slight distraction maybe (gave birth alone).

You won't have the pain of crowning just contractions and unless you're there for hours/days you won't have the exhaustion, it should hurt but you know when it will stop and you can tap out, you'll be fine and once they stopped it won't hurt anymore.

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Bluesheep8 · 25/05/2019 06:32

Just un-volunteer if it's really distressing you....

Bluesheep8 · 25/05/2019 06:33

I don't understand why you need to do this in the first place. What is to be gained?

OrdinaryGirl · 25/05/2019 06:40

Gosh this is an odd thread, even for MN. Suggest that you withdraw your participation in the demo. Or if you really fancy a 'realistic' experience, ask someone to crucify you from the inside for 26 hours and definitely not stop when you say you can't take it any more. For example.

pasbeaucoupdegendarme · 25/05/2019 06:46

Well don’t do it then. As you don’t even have the same muscles as your partner has, it can’t actually simulate what your partner went through. Added to which, you won’t (I assume) be doing it for hours on end, and you won’t have the internal pain of actually, y’know, giving birth.

Honestly, I think these devices are mostly designed so that men can say “it’s not that bad” after they’ve experienced nothing like childbirth.

Ridiculous.

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Manc1993 · 27/05/2019 04:49

My DP wants me to go on the pregnancy simulator to get a feeling of the pain and discomfort she went through during pregnancy and labour. I agree with her and I am 100% behind the idea but petrified that I will have a heart attack

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BabySoupDragonsMummy · 27/05/2019 06:56

I can’t believe this is actually for real 🤣

NauseousMum · 27/05/2019 07:24

Unless you go through 9 months with possible morning sickness, headaches, reflux, vomiting, cramps, bleeding, aches pains and haemarroids....plus more, you will barely get a teaser.

Just remember to wear it when you are constipated for at least a day.

BurnedToast · 27/05/2019 08:14

Just don't do it. It's pointless and I have no idea what you hope to get from it. If you were at the birth you will have some idea it wasn't a walk in the park. I can't see how it's that realistic given it can't pososbky simulate what's going on internally, or the crowning and damage caused.

kaytee87 · 27/05/2019 08:20

A simulator can't possibly show what it's actually like for some women. Therefore it's totally pointless.

yikesanotherbooboo · 27/05/2019 09:25

How odd, on many fronts. If your DP found labour so awful why would she want to put you through it as well? I agree with pp the discomfort and inconvenience of pregnancy is the main issue and not one painful day , not to mention the sleeplessness if one is breastfeeding.

isabellerossignol · 27/05/2019 09:28

Don't forget to get it to permanently damage your pelvic floor muscles and to give you long term anxiety and depression. That would be an accurate representation of what pregnancy does to a lot of women.

Soola · 27/05/2019 09:33

Sorry but I think it’s a silly idea. Why would anyone want to make their loved one deliberately suffer?

Giving birth is painful for many, I was lucky as I didn’t find it that bad at all and had short labours and no pain relief each time.

However, I felt dreadful all the time I was pregnant, like the life was being sucked out of me and I felt uncomfortable and certainly wasn’t ‘blooming’ at any stage!

Any discomfort I felt right at the end of giving birth was quickly replaced by pure joy at meeting our lovely babies. I was fortunate not to tear and felt fine in a very short time. Others may tear and have bruising and soreness that lasts for awhile.

Why can’t you and your partner accept that giving birth is a uniquely personal thing and that your partner did undergo some pain but it’s all over now and you should concentrate on the baby and the health of the one that gave birth to endure she has no lasting discomfort.

Simulating Labour seems to be a complete waste of time and money to me.

Soola · 27/05/2019 09:34

Ensure

Soola · 27/05/2019 09:42

www.google.co.uk/amp/s/metro.co.uk/2018/07/24/men-you-can-now-pay-to-experience-the-pain-of-labour-7753723/amp/

I googled it as I hadn’t heard of it before.

Seriously, when you’ve had a baby who has the time for this nonsense?

I actually think it’s quite weird and spiteful to suggest that your partner is deliberately made to suffer.

What will it achieve? You saying, “Yes dear, that really hurt!”.

If you feel you have to placate her bizarre request then plug it in but leave the switch turned off at the wall and just make pretend screaming noises at ever decreasing intervals.

Cookit · 27/05/2019 09:43

How very odd.

The pain is a lot but you get something amazing out of it so it’s a lot easier to take than if you didn’t have something to look forward to. What is possibly the point of taking pain for no reason? It’s not like it will help reduce the pain for the woman, it’s just more pain for no reason.

How does this simulator work anyway? Pregnancy for a lot of people isn’t “pain” as such it’s discomfort, heartburn, constipation etc and how do you simulate those? - and surely you know what those feel like anyway?

Doubtoftheordinary · 27/05/2019 09:44

WTF is a pregnancy simulator?
Where do you even procure such a bizarre thing? And why?? It's like going through chemo and then requesting that your partner does the same "so they know what you went through". What, so that you're both miserable and exhausted for a year just to make sure you max out the stress levels in your house? Totally weird and pointless.

Doubtoftheordinary · 27/05/2019 09:49

Oh, just seen the link. Thanks @soola.
So it's not a pregnancy simulator at all - it's a contraction simulator. Or not even that, really; just a tens machine you put on your abdomen.
Christ on a bike.

Soola · 27/05/2019 10:07

Some women get piles during pregnancy and/or after giving birth.

What’s your partner going to make you stick up your arse to simulate that?

BogglesGoggles · 27/05/2019 10:12

That’s really not going to give you any insight at all. Half an hour having muscles twitched doesn’t compare to nine months of extreme physical and hormonal changes. Maybe taking something that make it impossible for you to eat without crying over not being able to eat for six months straight might do the trick.

Mooey89 · 27/05/2019 10:17

😂😂😂

Bluesheep8 · 27/05/2019 11:57

I don't understand why on earth she would want you to do this. You are both being ridiculous.

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