We have an impossible decision to make.. background: at 7 weeks I had an early private scan which dated me 2 days before EDD, this followed suit at the 12 week scan with everything looking perfect just dates adjusted by 2 days. I had a private gender scan at 16 weeks & was overjoyed to find I’m having a girl. The sonographer said she was measuring a week behind but structurally she looked healthy & didn’t refer me. 18 weeks I have some light cramping & just an uneasy feeling, I tried to see a doctor, midwife & pregnancy unit who all told me there were no worrying signs. I decided to pay for a private scan (from which the cramping stopped & i’ve not had since) but what she found was my baby girl had very little amniotic fluid around her & measured over 2 weeks smaller.
I got referred to the hospital & today had a thorough scan by the fetal medicine specialist. The news was heartbreaking, my baby girl has less than 10% survival rate to viable birth gestation & even then there are risks to her surviving after this & if she does high chance of prem long term effects. I have a high still birth chance & it is believed the restricted growth is due to a placenta issue that cannot be fixed & is extremely detrimental being this early on. I was advised terminating the pregnancy as an option & having a chromosome test to see if she has any of the syndromes that also cause growth delay & for which she wouldn’t survive (previously results were low risk for everything)
How do we make this impossible decision? I’m trying to think of the potential long term effect on my little girl if she does make it & the fact that I’m pretty much faced with a ticking time bomb of not knowing day by day if my baby girl is still alive & faced with having to give birth to a still born. My partner is deployed & on his way home but has to return to duty soon. I just have no idea what to do for my little girl. Anyone have any experience of this?