My parking is blocking his view!

[hidinginthenightgarden]

So, the neighbor has just asked DH to stop parking outside the house as it blocks his view! The front of our house joins the side of his house and apparently, that is where his lounge is. So when we park there, he can see our car from his chair and he doesn’t like it. DH explained that we have too small kids to get in and out of the car and so we won’t be parking further up the street and apparently we aren’t being neighbourly!
To be clear, we don’t park in front of his house, we park at the side which is also (partly) in front of our own house.
He has said he doesn’t want to have to phone the police? He is being ridiculous right?

DH explained that we have too small kids to get in and out of the car and so we won’t be parking further up the street and apparently we aren’t being neighbourly!

But you have two cars in the diagram. You can park the one with the children in from of your house and the other one further down.

Also, children can walk? how old are they?

My point is, you can compromise if you wanted to.

I’m with you OP and don’t think you’re doing anything wrong. It’s not like you’re blocking him in and as others have said someone else would probably park there if you didn’t. What’s he going to do- moan at every single person who parks there? I also wouldn’t be parking further away than necessary with young children either.

Chardonnay I could compromise yes. But sometimes the one of us. Rings the kids home and the other takes them the next day. So it still inconveniences us.
If his request was for a reason other than his view I would feel more obliged.
But for his view?? You seriously think the safety of my 3 yr old is less important than his view?

Why is is unsafe for your 3yr old?

Does your 3 year old never ever cross roads in your care?

If it is a public road then continue to park there. He doesn't have a right to a view. No doubt the people across the road are happy not to have him peering across at them.

What an absolute t**t I am so sick to death of these whiny moaners. The world seems full of them right now.

Excuse me - I'm from the Diagram Police, and I feel you should have put a little stick figure in of him sitting in his chair, maybe with squiggly lines coming from his head to show he is angry. And a cat, watching everything from across the road....

I'd just ignore him. He's batshit. It's not a police matter. If he approaches again, 'I don't want to call the police,' just shrug and tell him to go ahead.

So what would your response be if he started parking in front of your house?

Hmmm, I actually side with him on this one (I think). Parking etiquette can be so tricky! What gives you the right to park in front of his house, just because you have two cars? I'm assuming he doesn't drive so you are essentially taking the space he would have used were he a driver? I also think that if there are alternatives (i.e. You park a bit further up) then you should move one car for the sake of your relationship with him. Is the road particularly busy? I'm sure your toddlers would be fairly safe walking across the road with their parents once in a while (I'm saying this as someone who lives on a main road and frequently negotiate car to house journeys with the kids).

Yes I hate myself- but when getting in and out the car, we often have a lot of other stuff to carry which means I either cannot hold her hand, or cannot bring it all in without having to leave her in the house to go back to the car which would be out of eyeline of the house.
It is just easier to park outside the house. And we are lucky enough to be able to. We have lived here 6 years with no problems.
He moved in 6 months ago and now wants us to make changes so he can stare at the house opposite.

Actually workingmummy, I am not stopping him parking at all! Next to his house he has a garage and space for his car. Opposite his house there is space to park.
I park outside my house which happens to be also the SiDE, of his house. The front of his house faces on the long side of the diagram I added.
The only issue here is if blocks his view of the street!

I used to live near an elderly lady who was exactly the same. She would get really cross when a car parked in front of her window and leave notes on the windscreens. No matter how many times I told her she owned the house not the road outside it she wouldn’t or couldn’t understand there was nothing whatsoever she could do about it.
To be fair, she was almost housebound and lived alone so I think watching people walking up and down the road was very important to her, not that it makes any difference to the rights and wrongs of it. Just wondering if this is why your neighbour gets so cross too?

I was also reprimanded by a batshit neighbour who told me I wasn't allowed to block her view. She parked outside her ndn window - despite owning a 6 car carpark that she owned and kept locked.
EMPTY!!
Over a week me and ds had cause to park there. My car was keyed over the 3 nights and ds had his tyres let down. No proof obviously. She took pics of me parking up (??!!) and actually skuttled under a table on her hands and knees after snapping away with a camera!! She is in her 70's ffs!!

No, he wants to not have to look at your car all the time.

So carrying stuff is more important to you than holding your 3y old'd hand.

Anyway, he doesn't have a right to ask you not to park there, but with a bit of effort you could do it. It's up to you whether you want to compromise.

I hate- we work full time and he is retired. He has the view all day! We only steal it for a few hours before the darkness takes over and steals it anyway!

Chardonnay- no, but the other option is that I leave the food shop in the car or the child in the house whilst I make trips to the car? But I don’t have to choose if I park in front of my house so I?

So, exactly as I said, he perhaps has not much going on in his life. Minor, momentary, inconvenience to you could improve his quality of life. (Been there done that 3 small kids, things to carry). It's obviously bothering him enough to ask you.

I don't get why people wouldn't do things that are really no skin off their nose if it matters to other people.

But, does he realise you don't have drive/garage etc

Ihatemyseleffordoingthis

No, he wants to not have to look at your car all the time

Well tough shit, if he didn't want to look at cars parked legally on the road he shouldn't have moved into a estate where cars are parked on the road out side their owners houses.

YABU, you could compromise but you selfishly don't want to.

My friend's ndn parked outside her window at his admission so he didn't have to see it while watching TV.
She had to park on the bend!!
And she didn't argue.
Doormat!!
Imo she should have parked outside his window!

I think you are being a bit unreasonable here. You are choosing not to be kind and considerate of a neighbour as it suits you best not to. Your choice, but I think it doesn't make you a nice person to live beside.

Surely when he bought the house he realised the view out the window was of a public highway where people may (shock horror) park cars?