Would you choose the same wedding dress again?

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Especially if you went for a short dress, or a very simple one.

Good god no! 90's puff sleeved meringue horror! But I liked it ok at the time.

Many years later I ended up working in the industry.

Re sleeves - most good bridal seamstresses (seriously don't use high street hemmers) will be able to add sleeves to most styles for you.

What style of dress are you liking? Neckline? Fabric? What fabric do you want sleeves in?

Where are you looking?

Because we don't wear this type of dress ordinarily now we don't know what suits us, so many brides have a preconceived idea of what they like based of course on pictures of models wearing dresses. The only way to really find the right style for you is to try them on - even the ones you don't think will suit you.

What body shape are you roughly? Shape is more important than size really.

Also as pp said you could go the wrap/bolero route

If it were a time machine situation, and I were young and slim and the whole world were in the fashion era that was the 90s, then yes, I'd choose the same again.
Obviously though, if there were a reason why I was getting married in 2019, as a second wedding, and in my mid 50s, then styles are different, situations are different, etc etc etc, so what I would wear would be completely different.

I agree with pp though re going and trying. A "wedding dress" is not something you are used to wearing, so it is difficult to know what really suits you and what doesn't. You will be photographed a LOT and will keep these photos (possibly at least one on display) for ever. You want to make sure you love what you get. i changed my mind from what I thought I'd want, quite a bit after trying some on.

I wore a short, fitted ivory dress to get married in. Kick ass blue shoes. I looked ace. It totally fitted me at the time. It was great on the day because it was easy to get into and dance in and didn't need sorted to go to the loo in. Also much cheaper.

The only time I get a pang about it is when I see Strictly Come Dancing and I think, barring an appearance on that show, I've totally missed my chance to wear a big fuck off frock. It's only a wee pang though. I would absolutely choose it again. Did I mention I looked ace!

Thank you so much for all the posts, and especially the photos. You were all stunning

What body shape are you roughly? Shape is more important than size really

I'm very small, 5ft 2 and size 8, straight up and down. I want to have my chest, shoulders and elbows covered as I'm getting married in a church and personally I don't feel comfortable with lots of skin on show. I've seen a few dresses with necklines I like, but with no back, which is a no-no.

As I mentioned, I have a bad bad case of imposter syndrome and I feel stupid wearing lipstick, never mind a big dress.

I do like 50s style tea dresses but think I'm too short and baby faced. I'm also too short to carry off the very simple long silhouettes.

What do you recommend for anxious short arses?

God I hated mine. It looked so awful that I raided my wardrobe a few hours before the ceremony and I was threatening to walk down the aisle in my old blue prom dress. DH had to literally force me to wear the white wedding dress.

Op, the best thing you can wear is the thing you feel amazing in. Sod every one else, trends, etc. If you don't like you in a tea dress, fine. If you don't like you in a tea dress because you think others won't... fuck them! Your day, your dress. Your dp thinks you look fabulous in a sack, or he wouldn't be marrying you and presumably you are inviting people who you really like, who will also think you look fabulous in a sack. Wear whatever you want and makes you feel amazing.

I liked mine okay, but it wasn't actually what I'd wanted - my mother insisted her friend make me a dress because that's what my sister had had, she would pay for the material.

I ended up having different fabric than I actually wanted because my mum was paying for it; if I had been able to pay my own way I would have had a more expensive fabric. I regret that I was steamrollered into doing what my mum wanted because she thought she was doing a nice thing.

This was mine, I was same sort of size and height as you OP sadly not any more

www.very.co.uk/chi-chi-london-meara-lace-sleeve-high-low-hem-dress-white/1600337603.prd

Short sleeves look nice?

Nope, it is very much of its era.

I still really like the dress and it did suit me. But I got married in 2003 and it was the standard strapless number that was very popular in the early-mid 2000s.

In hindsight I would have got something more classic.

I was also a tiny short arse (5'2") when I married - size 6, no boobs no arse and I LOST weight in the run up.

Another reason a meringue was a BAD idea for me - it drowned me!

Anyway. Just my personal opinion but if you went for a shorter style a tea dress shape would actually work well as the fitted waist and flared skirt would give you more shape. Doesn't have to be too low cut and certainly can have sleeves and a back.

Another option is a full length dress but with a dipped hemline with again a bit of flare to the skirt, half length sleeves perhaps choir boy style?

Fishtail full length would work too, give you a few curves.

Again just personal opinion but I would avoid a full skirt, full length sleeves, empire line (can make shorter people look childlike), and column styles.

Purely my opinion but I've dressed a LOT of brides and bridesmaids.

I wonder if your dislike of tea dresses is because you're trying them on in lengths designed for taller women? Remember you can get the hem altered to fit YOU, you can also reduce the fullness of the skirt if you wish, have lace sleeves altered to full fabric sleeves, different style of sleeves etc. You can have a low cut back altered to a full back - honestly I've been amazed at what I've seen seamstresses achieve!

I would do it all exactly the same.big fat Greek wedding in the village!Felt like a princess, and had the time of my life that day-we will be celebrating our 16th wedding anniversary this year :)

IWantFlowers. With lovely proportions like yours, something very Audrey Hepburn would look amazing on you - fitted dresses with 3/4 sleeves and a boat neckline?

Dress was alright, I’d pick a different groom though.

Love the photos of posters in their dresses!

And the ones on models too.

OP you’re slim and will have lots of options, are you working on your self esteem?

Posters in style and beauty love helping brides, there was a great thread recently where posters helped a bride get a really good outfit.

We had no money when we got married, our wedding was a very communal one where everyone helped out , which was lovely. It was a fabulous wedding but the one thing I didn’t like was my dress. I couldn’t afford the one I wanted so I got one off eBay and although it was okay if I did it now I would make sure I got the one I wanted.

Yes. Still love it. It was only 5 years ago though.
It was long though, not short. We got married with no guests but our photos are beautiful. So glad I got it.

Probably not.

I loved my wedding. It was the perfect day. But looking back a lot of it was doing what we felt we 'should' be doing and less about what we actually wanted and needed. We had a church wedding and big do afterwards, with a big dress to match. If we got married now we'd just have a small registry office do.

This was mine, am 5ft3 but curvy-ish