Snapchat and secondary school age children

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He doesn't have Facebook (his choice), he isn't allowed Instagram (his fuck up), he doesn't use WhatsApp since a video he took got him in serious trouble with me.

Snapchat.

I look on this too keep and eye on him, but theres fuck all there.

And that's the point isn't it?

I delete this too, right?

Fuck sake.

Why are you deleting it ?

How old is he?

The teens these days mostly all use Snapchat, Instagram and WhatsApp (Facebook is for us oldies!)

They main thing to be aware with Snapchat is the ‘conversations’ aren’t saved so you wouldn’t be able to check up as easily.

I think the OP's point is that if her DS hasn't been trustworthy with the other social media, then he also shouldn't have Snapchat where she can't even check what he's up to as it isn't stored?

I agree. (depending on age)

Yes! That's exactly it, he can't be trusted at all.
He's 12.

Dd1 had to wait til she was 13.. Dd2 12 isn't happy but too bad!
Too much responsibility ime.

If only 12 then definitely ban - too young.

Our school sent out a letter basically saying they were fed up with having to deal with petty SM issues in the lower secondary years, so from now on they would only deal with serious issues and also conditional on SM being deleted for any under 13s involved.

Our secondary (though only girls) is keen to get the message around to not have SM until the actual age reached, like WhatsApp being 16 now.

While several childen in Y7 do have Instagram, WhatApp it is not as normal as previous years.

We get the odd "I would like WhatsApp" from DD and would consider it depending on the group involved but after 1-2 days she is not really into it. Snapchat is a big no-no as there is no way to control what is said and done. While the messages vanish, it is easy to do a screenshot and bang- up into cyberspace with no control where and who is doing what with it.

You can amend Snapchat settings so the conversations save for 24 hours giving you time to check them.

He's 12? No social media at all yet. So this is entirely your doing so far really.

I have a 12 year old DS. He doesn't ask for this stuff yet as he knows there are age restrictions plus he's not bothered

Just tell him no?

Give him a nonsmart phone for now?

PatriciaHorn - we tried that in year 6, biggest parenting disaster ever.

Originally the school was all in favour for non-smartphones and it must have worked in the past but that was before everyone upgrades all the time and hands iPhone down to the children. And parents allowing SM to primary school girls.

DD was talked about behind her back, got told nasty comments to her face and in the end hid her phone before confessing to us what was going on.

It seemed no phone was better than not having a proper one.

In secondary now they actually use smartphones during lessons, they use apps for visual art for example. Obviously the school can’t make one compulsory but it seems areound 85-90% have one.