I’ve NC for this as posting on behalf of a friend who is having problems posting:
Bear with me as this is a bit of an essay. I'll keep it as brief as possible.
Last Jan my husband left my daughter and I, turned out he was having an affair with his boss. Bit of a back story - he lost 11 jobs in 7 years, was very difficult to live with, definitely narcissism in there somewhere.
Since then he has not paid CMS, mortgage or insurance, nor contributed to marital debts.
He has made false claims to social services, tried to stop me taking my daughter on holiday, tried to ruin my business and reputation, started rumours I'm an alcoholic, a drug addict etc etc. The list goes on. (I run my own successful business, have been in same job for 17+ years, well respected member of PTA and the community!!) Most recently claimed to police I chased him at high speed in my car. The police after doing the most basic of checks realised this is complete nonsense and have had a word with him for wasting their time.
I enlisted a solicitor at the very beginning and it's still ongoing but I feel like I'm getting nowhere.
He hasn't seen his daughter since the day he left and wants to legally relinquish parental rights and responsibilities, but he wants me to pick up the tab.
He is in agreement to divorce, again if I pick up the tab.
He's in agreement to the sale of the house, but he wants half the profits. Now as for the latter, the house was purchased using my late grandmothers inheritance, so my view is he IS NOT entitled to half.
He wants me to take all the debts on in my name, and cease pursuing CSA for payments including backdated.
He essentially owes me A LOT of money. I am drowning in solicitor bills and obviously it's been hard taking on the house etc myself. If I agree to all of this I will be left in a mountain of debt whilst he carries on his fresh start with the mistress. (Who's also now pregnant)
The next step seems to be court but my solicitor is also saying this could be risky as you can never guarantee the outcome.
Anyone been in this situation? Any outcomes you could share?
I'm at my wits end, it's been 18 months of stress and I can't see a light at the end of the tunnel.
Forgot to mention he is on his second solicitor as his first refused to deal further with him. He was caught lying to solicitors and the judge when in court regarding holiday. He also questioned paternity but when I offered DNA test it was declined.