Met a guy online a few weeks ago - we texted for a while and he said he really liked my sense of humour etc., he phoned me a few times and then we met for a date (his work schedule, traffic etc was crazy that day and ended up with him travelling 2 hours here and 2 hours back for a 1.5 hour date (couldn't be longer than that as he had to get the last train of the night back) - he seemed fairly reserved at the date but said he had an amazing time, insisted upon giving me cash for me to get a cab, said he got goosebumps seeing me, phoned me straight away when he got home and asked for another meet-up the day after (but I was busy)..
Few days later, I was off on a pre-planned holiday abroad with friends - he text me wishing me well and to send lots of photos etc.
I messaged him some photos about 2 days after that landing and getting some nice shots of architecture etc - he said it looked great. He'd been having a tough time at work and told me he got fired - I offered a comfort phone call (whilst I was abroad), he declined initially saying he was trying to sort out a replacement job and a few hours later asked if I wanted to chat on the phone (said he found some temp jobs he could do from next week) so we did and then he messaged me until 2am saying the typical cliche "thinking of you, can't wait to see you etc" how much he loves hearing my voice, etc. and then few messages (1-2 back and forth per day asking what you're doing etc. in the days following the chat..
He asked me a question last sunday about my holiday - I answered and asked him a generic question back around monday afternoon but I haven't heard anything back from him...
He mentioned a week ago, that he'd deleted his dating app (without me asking but obviously I don't have proof so this could just be a line) and he mentioned on our last phone call that he's spoken fondly about me to his friend... so feels weird that he hasn't said anything for 3 days in response to my message...
He is going through A LOT in his personal life (split from mother of his child about 7 months ago, living with his mate temporarily, not on good terms with his parents and now the job thing so I get he'd be stressed but he seemed very keen to persue this.. is it a weird hot and cold thing that some people just do or was this whole thing just an ego boost to him? (He's a gemini by the way for those who are into the zodiac and I tend to find they've got a bipolar/hot-cold thing going on quite often)
I don't want to seem needy by sending a follow-up message but not sure how long I should wait it out? He did say he felt bad disturbing me whilst I was on holiday so didn't text me much, I told him I didn't mind him texting me (that I liked hearing from him) - yet 2 days before the silence, I hadn't replied to his text for 4 hours (due to being busy) and he said a follow up emoji and question mark so clearly he values fairly quick responses.....
I know the easy answer is for me to just move on but there seems to be a real "thing" between us I believe (and I've spoken to 100s of men to know that "thing/spark" doesn't come around too often) and I don't feel it's one-sided (but I might be wrong!)