What could we do?

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Trying to make an effort to get my dd family on her dads side more involved, she's almost 2 and they've only seen her a handful times, I was thinking of suggesting a picnic in the park that way adults can have a catch up and the kids are entertained too however one brother has a kid and the other doesn't, almost a year ago I suggested swimming ( please don't jump on that I know what a stupid idea but they all seemed up for it ) but they all cancelled last minute and the brother without a kid yet said him and his wife wouldn't want to because it'll be weird without their own kid, so I'm not too sure what to suggest, don't want to over spend on money but also would like the kids to have something to do rather than sitting at a table in a pub having a meal!! Xx

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Any suggestions I'm stuck for ideas xx

Any suggestions I'm stuck for ideas xx

I reckon you might have to resign yourself to the table at the pub, if that's the only way you can get them to reliably commit. . .

Its nice that you want to involve them but I wouldn't try too hard, if they want to be involved they can choose to do so.

I would just invite them to normal things that you do with her and if they come along that's great but if not, you've not gone out of your way!

Why is it so important to involve them?
We do lots of days out with one side of the family, other side don’t seem interested so I’m not pushing it. I did find when my siblings had kids they were more interested in meeting up, but before that weekend for them were about going out and not hanging around kids which I completely get

Thankyou for your replies, I thought I've give it one more try for dd, she doesn't need his side of the family, my side give her so much love and always love to see her but I thought it would be nice, good idea about doing something we'd do and invite them, not too sure about the pub, dd is at the age where is gets easily bored xx

What about one of those pubs where they have a soft play area attached?

Or invite them round to yours for something like takeaway Chinese or Indian.
Or a trip to the beach with a communal picnic.
Or maybe suggest something just with the BIL with a child, to do something specifically child friendly like a trip to the zoo. And then invite other BIL round for dinner at yours.