Neighbours keep reporting us what to do

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We had new neighbours since February they were ok at the start but the lady is very nosey and is always curtain twitching.

I had a letter from mash hub today who told me to contact the social worker on the number that was left.

They had a complaint about our children being abused as DS crying sounded like he was being hurt. Also they called the police on us before well two times but we wasn't there the second time.

I have been suffering with bad anxiety since having DD I don't even want to stay in this house anymore today I packed all our stuff up and went to my mums. I'm worried about social services taking my kids and I can't sleep it's all I'm thinking about.

OH went round to confront her at first she denied it then she mentioned something about DS which she wouldn't of known unless she was listening with her ear to the wall.

The walls are very thin we can hear them but not conversations so I know she is listening.

I feel so uncomfortable in this house now would I be stupid up and move?

I'm worried about social services taking my kids and I can't sleep it's all I'm thinking about.
Why are you worried? You know SS aren't child thieves, they don't just swoop in and take kids for no reason. If they receive a complaint they investigate, if they find nothing of concern, they'll close the case.

OH went round to confront her.
Well that was stupid. Nosey neighbours and people like that thrive on reactions. Your OH confronting them is the last thing you should do. Don't be goaded into a reactionary position.

I'd suggest logging all of it in a diary.
If SS visit, invite them in and let them look, have a chat, talk about your concerns and be open.
If the police visit, invite them in for a coffee and a chat.
Sounds stupid I know, but two reasons to do it this way, firstly, it'll piss off the nosey neoghbour when they don't get a rise.
Secondly, it'll get the cops and SS on your side and if it keeps happening, report neighbour for harassment.

Ultimately though, that fight would take energy and time, if you have neither, moving is a good option.

I'd put radios in the rooms which adjoin her property and keep them on all day. Should mask conversations. You shouldn't have to, but it's an easy way to protect yourself from her listening in on you.

As has already been suggested, keep a log of everything and be open with anyone who comes round.

some good advice here op, log incidents, ignore neighbour and use radio /music that you like.

Were the police called about the supposed abuse of your child?

The walls are very thin we can hear them but not conversations so I know she is listening

We lived in a house with thin walls. We could hear every word said even without listening because they talked loudly.
We moved because of the noise.
The radio is a good idea unless it would cause them to complain about noise nuisance. If it is causing you to want to be out of your house all day then moving would save your sanity.

Log it all in case you want to put in a counter for harassment - times, dates, what happened and most importantly how it made you feel/affected you