Growing apart

[Katieg1009]

I feel like me and my fiancé are growing apart , I ask him if we're ok and he says yes but it doesn't feel like it. We don't really talk to each other and he spends most his time on his phone talking to his mates , I suggest going out or doing something together but he's always to tired or can't be bothered. The only time he ever shows any enthusiasm is when he's going out with his mates.
I feel like we used to be more loving but recently I'm starting to feel like we just live together in a routine. He doesn't like talking about things so feel like I'm dealing with it on my own. I don't know whether I'm just over thinking it or if there's something I should be doing ? I make so much effort but feel like I don't get much back in return - I love him and we're meant to be getting married in just under 2 years but right now feels like I'm waiting for him to change his mind.

It sounds like a relationship that has run its course. Perhaps you need to talk?

My gosh, I could have written this 5 years ago!
And I will give you the same advice I got and that helped me make my decision - if you have to think about whether or not you're "okay" in a relationship then you're not really "okay"
Imagine 5 years down the line, do you want to be in the same routine? Do you look forward to coming home? Do you want many things about him to change?
Personally, these are all the things that made me decide to give up my failing relationship and it was the best thing I ever did, I found somebody else accidentally just a year later and realized that if I want somebody to change then they aren't right for me, I shouldn't have to dread coming home some nights and be fed up with my routine there or feeling like I'm giving my all but not getting anything back or feel insecure in anyway about the strength and bond of our relationship.

Don't worry about what you're supposed to be doing together plan wise or feeling bad about the "wasted time" or how you've been together for so long and out so much into it, or the people you would upset because at the end of the day, life goes on and people heal and it's all a journey that takes you to where you need to be and teaches you all the life lessons
Hope that kind of helps?