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If you'd done 'Don't tell the bride' what would you DH/DP do?

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Echobelly · 21/05/2019 20:50

Thought this might be entertaining to wonder about - what would your other half have come up with to put together a wedding for you without your input?

DH, thank God, would never have gone for a football club function room or something, but he'd also probably come up with something marvellously impractical - his initial thoughts for our wedding were to hike out to a field far from anywhere. Forgetting this is really not a goer a) with the English Countryside and b) with a lot of guests, with several of those closest to us not being fully mobile!

He'd probably have known I didn't want a white dress, but he would probably have managed to choose one in a colour that's awful on me, like orange or something, and wouldn't have a clue what suits my figure (and bless him, would probably assume I'm better proportioned than I actually am) so would probably find some shape that wasn't at all flattering, like something long and skintight and/or strapless.

He'd overall do something tasteful. Honestly, he actually led on most of our actual wedding because he had an idea how he'd like his wedding to be and I didn't especially have an idea I'd ever cleaved to.
Also thankfully he wouldn't make me skydive, or scuba dive, or go on a rollercoaster or anything like that! Grin

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Drogosnextwife · 21/05/2019 20:55

I think he would probably pick me the right dress, we did it for a laugh one night and the one he picked was better than the one I picked 😂. Honestly I think everything else would be a bit tacky if it was left up to him. I have a very specific idea of what I would want my wedding to beike though and I just don't think he could live up to the expectations.

RottnestFerry · 21/05/2019 20:55

I always wonder why they don't agree on what he will do before the filming starts.

I half suspect that the production team goad them into making daft decisions for the sake of entertaining telly.

user1474894224 · 21/05/2019 21:00

I"m actually getting married irl on Saturday. I can tell you if my OH was on it he would have done sweet FA. No - actually he would have sorted food. The rest would be a quick in/out at the local registry office - no guests. And then something to eat. (Probably still no guests as that would involve talking to people). My dress would be tracksuit bottoms I already own. And that would be about it!!! Can you tell who has sorted most of this wedding??? Lol.

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Echobelly · 21/05/2019 21:09

@RottnestFerry - yes, I've heard that's more or less what they do with the grooms. They nudge them into stupid decisions, presumably by saying things like 'Oh go on, visit Grimsby FC's function room, they are your team after all' etc, and the whole thing of 'themes' I'm sure is heavily pushed by the showrunners.

I think they also put some limits on which dress shops and so on they can visit.

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Stravapalava · 21/05/2019 23:37

I think I would have got a big pouffey Disney Princess style dress.

He would have found a way to include his beloved football club - possibly in the venue and definitely in the colours.

Food would be from his culture.

The wedding would be absolutely massive. I wouldn't even know more than half the guests.

WillYouDoTheFandango · 21/05/2019 23:57

DP would organise a big Catholic Church wedding (which I’ve expressly said I’d hate), invite the world and his wife (I’d much prefer small) and give an hour long speech that would make Roy chubby brown blush Grin

I don’t know what type of dress I’d get. We have different tastes in jewellery (I like plainer than him). I think he’d let the sales assistant talk him into the biggest poofiest one they had!

cheesenpickles · 22/05/2019 00:00

DH would probably make good decisions. I've heard that when they apply they have to put "quirky" ideas down and the production team pick one and pretty much strong arm them into it. If they refuse they're in breach of contract and forfeit the money (and end up with all the bills already incurred), this why so many keep going with it.

tangledyarn · 22/05/2019 06:49

I have no idea. It would be a disaster. Particularly as I discovered the other day he doesn't seem to know the difference between a top and a dress which was a little disturbing. Fortunately we are very happily unmarried :)

userabcname · 22/05/2019 06:57

Hmmm he'd either have done something really low-key like jeans and t shirts in a registry office then drinks in town (probably too boring for DTTB) or gone to town on the theme we had which was a kind of English/Cotswold-y vibe. He'd have had me in a matching tweed dress, probably included horse racing at some point and lots of photos of people posing by fireplaces with pipes.

CakeNinja · 22/05/2019 07:12

Very low key, he’d hire a field and have it there with a friends’ band playing the music, a hog roast (no pudding, he wouldn’t have thought of that) and a cake from M&S! I’d no doubt end up with a very non weddingy type dress and trainers or wellies. Maybe hire us a yurt or something to sleep in.
The majority of the budget would be spent on food and alcohol.
Sounds alright really, neither of us like a fuss and would prefer low key party to a more formal traditional wedding.
Although I don’t want to get married so it’s not like either wedding is going to happen Grin
I used to watch that programme but it became clear that it is so scripted and heavily influenced by the producers to make good tv that I lost interest. Shame as it’s a good premise but probably not dramatic enough if they just let them make their own decisions.

Echobelly · 22/05/2019 07:35

I don't know why I like watching it - I normally hate 'reality' TV or anything with uncomfortable moments and potential embarrassment, but I guess on DTTB, it usually ends up happily, even if the bride is initially pissed off, which I appreciate about it. I can only remember two real near-disasters - Las Vegas guy and the groom who thought it would be a good idea to have the guests walk down the catwalk and also hired some models to join them, while the bride looked more and more confused and furious and downed vodka shots Grin

@cheesenpickles - yes, that wouldn't surprise me at all.

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lastqueenofscotland · 22/05/2019 07:41

Anyone remember the one in the brewery Blush
Mine would make some sort of Sunderland theme.... no.

Thecowinthemeadowgoesmoo · 22/05/2019 07:43

Our wedding is on Fri! We had a tiny budget and we're both happy with what we've managed to do with it.

If my DF had been left to his own devices though, I have absolutely no doubt it would be Star Wars themed. Or maybe he'd stay with the wedding we're having and pocket the extra money Grin

Mrsemcgregor · 22/05/2019 07:48

My DH would have imploded under the pressure and probably ended up doing nothing but pacing back and forth for 2 weeks. (And then used the money to leave the country never to be seen again.....)

nrpmum · 22/05/2019 07:49

My husband would have done a walking dead theme, no question. Dress wise he is pretty good, but it would have been blood splattered! The guest list would probably have been the same as it was at our actual wedding.

My husband is a perfectionist though, so he wouldn't be happy if he couldn't get it all in within budget.

Alm1986 · 22/05/2019 07:50

I worked at a venue that was the bride's "dream" venue. The producers had told us that for us to be used as a place where they interviewed the bride and chatted about her expectations, we had to turn down the wedding citing to already be booked. Had we not agreed, we'd have had no TV time at all.

So essentially, he knew her dream venue, tried to book it, and was blocked intentionally by the production team so it would make "good" TV.

Fortunately, she did get a lovely venue :)

nrpmum · 22/05/2019 07:50

@Thecowinthemeadowgoesmoo my friends had Star Wars characters at their wedding. It was great fun.

nrpmum · 22/05/2019 07:52

@Alm1986 I appreciate that makes good TV, but that sucks.

BreakfastAtSquiffanys · 22/05/2019 07:54

Before we got married we actually had a discussion - purely hypothetical - about if he could be trusted with choosing my outfit.

He was very confident, insisting that he even knew my dress and shoe size.
Sadly he would have got them the wrong way round.

A size 6 dress with size 12 shoes would be lovely
Assuming I looked like Olive Oyl.

If you'd done 'Don't tell the bride' what would you DH/DP do?
Alm1986 · 22/05/2019 07:55

@nrpmum I agree. I've not watched it since lol

Loopytiles · 22/05/2019 07:56

Church wedding, v low cut, tight dress, most of the budget spent on music, lights and alcohol.

Dyrne · 22/05/2019 08:16

Apparently you have to submit your idea to even get considered - they won’t choose you if you don’t have an interesting angle.

My DP is like a PP’s in that he would probably crumble under the stress of having to choose so much stuff in a short space of time! He’s actually got lovely taste but he also has expensive taste so the £15K budget would be gone in seconds and probably all we’d have to show for it would be some flowers or something Grin

lyralalala · 22/05/2019 08:27

There was a local couple on it a couple of years ago and pretty much everyone knew that her "dream" venue wasn't at all her dream venue and the one he chose which turned from "OMG how could he do that to me" to "Oh it looks amazing done up" was actually where they both wanted to marry.

I think DH would have done exactly what we did - nice old town hall humanist ceremony and then pub reception. Probably while pretending I wanted the swanky stately house.
I wouldn't have got the same dress though. He'd have picked something more elaborate as I tried my dress on for a laugh and instantly loved it.

Echobelly · 22/05/2019 15:01

Not to mention they always ensure the groom does a stag weekend in Amsterdam and the bride and friends get a pub crawl in Reading Shock

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Aroundtheworldin80moves · 22/05/2019 15:09

It would probably have been on a train or at the zoo.
Food and alcohol plentiful
Dresses, shoes etc would be forgotten about
Flowers from Tesco.
Hen/stag parties would have been good.

It would be a pretty boring programme as we are both as wierd as each other. Although I did go a bit bridezilla (very mildly)

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