It'll Pass.....

[sunsetoverwindmills]

(Fleabag quote for those who haven't watched it)

My question to you all is how?

How to make "it" pass? I guess it doesn't really matter what "it" is....grief, infatuation, guilt, love, shame, disappointment....you can take your pick....I'm guessing they are not too dissimilar in process.

I know that the answer is time, and only time...but what have you found that can help "it" fade into the background so that you can get on with living.

Activity,and lots of it. Structured activities that mean you don’t get maudlin
Limit scope for introspection, by being busy.being in company of good folk
Eat well.sleep well. Look after your mind and body
If the low mood/malaise isn’t shifting see your GP

Believe it or not, daydreaming really helped me get over the aplit with my ex many years ago.

I found myself losing a grip on my mind as all the time my mind was remembering the awful things that had happened in my relationship and would replay events and situations and I was humiliated and distressed over and over again.

So I ‘invented’ a new relationship only it was a celebrity (I won’t say who, but he was my age group and very handsome and in a position of power). I would daydream about how i has bumped into him and we hit it off and went on dates. It was like having a soap opera running in my mind with a different episode with me and this man as the main characters having a wonderful time!

These daydreams pushes out and replaced the negative thoughts in my mind and over time I fantasised less and normal thoughts resumed.

Keep busy. Time is a great way to make "it" pass.

Thank you. I will try all of those things, though I suspect daydreaming might do more harm than good at the moment.