My black cat and the neighbour ....

[dippydeedoo]

I have anxiety so prone to overthinking etc.

Yesterday my friend stopped by as she walking her dog, as we were talkin on the doorstep my cat went outside and so my friend came in with her dog.
The cat then came to the back door and knocked (yes really she knocks) to come back in- so I let her in but not in the room where the dog was - within minutes she was moaning to go back out so I opened the back door and this time left it open so I could continue talking to my friend and the cat could come in and out.

Within minutes the cat was knocking on the front door, so I ignored her - then in about 3 minutes the woman from up the street hammers on my door to tell me the cat wants to come in and im cruel !!!!

She was really ranting although she is a little odd.

Was I being cruel? I’d hope not but would you see the see that behaviour as cruel?

Of course you were being cruel. You failed to anticipate which door your cat wanted to use to come in. You probably were also unreasonable in providing the same weather at the front and the back of the house. I am frequently found lacking by my cats in my ability to control the weather. I am definitely unreasonable in terms of letting them out as I will only let daft cat out the back as she would get squashed under the first car to drive past. Human slaves, we will never be good enough.

Your not serious?
Do not give this another thought .
Yes you are overthinking .

Um, I've done this, knocked on doors told let people know their cat wants to get in. I don't rant tho!

I'm usually told the cat has only just gone outside!

Sounds about right then!

How old is the cat? Can they be trusted with their own key?

I agree with @shouldwestayorshouldwego yabvvvvva op

What? Get a cat flap? What does your cat do if you go out?

At least your cat knocks.

Ours will demand to be let out the front, go round to the back door and sit there silently (next to the catflap that was installed at considerable cost and inconvenience) waiting for us to telepathically realise he wants to be let in.

I can’t really have a cat flap as the door isn’t really suitable for it.
The cats about 10 I not really old enough or responsible enough for a doorkey lol.... usually there’s someone here but she’s always in and out all day.
Normally I just accommodate her but with the dog being here it was awkward.
If she doesn’t get immediate answers from the doors she climbs onto the kitchen roof and knocks on my sons bedroom window.

I think I’ve overindulged her tbh - but I’m glad nobody has said I’m cruel (yet) apart from Ranty neighbour.

Our ndn's cat comes to greet us when we park the car outside, follows us to the door and sits outside it while we come in. We will leave the door open to see if she will come in for a couple of treats.

A few minutes later we will shut the door then a few seconds later said cat will hop on the windowsill and glare through the window to demand you let her in, she is very accusatory, telling you off for not letting her in quicker even though the door was open, she will then search through the kitchen looking for nibbles, ask for treats, eat treats you have to give her and then often go to the back door to go out. We open the door so she will instead go and sit on the inside of the windowsill and paw at the blind to be let out that way.

We have to pander to a cat we don't even own, she will also walk from the front of our house to the back, via her own garden down the side, to be let in our back window to get treats. If we have to pander to someone else's cat then you should to yours!

But no, you were not being cruel, your neighbour was being unreasonable.

As i was writing this ndn's cat was sat on the inside windowsill, with the window open, watching the world go by instead of going out and letting us close the window to keep the chilly evening air out. She suddenly fell off the sill to behind the tv. Practically the whole house went to her rescue, gave her a hug and made sure she was ok. She then bogged off out without as much as a thank you for rescuing her from being trapped behind a speaker, completely unable to turn around, never mind escape. Cats, eh.