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Jehovah's Witnesses

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miggeldysthepres · 20/05/2019 18:40

Was going to nc but probably not outing as I can't be the only one.
So here's the story. I'm church of England ( don't really go to church though). Had the Jehovah's come and I don't like to be rude, so had a chat. Trouble is now they are calling every week or two. It only takes a minute or two, but I'm really not interested, I do believe in God but don't even go my own church. They always ask how my children are by name which freaks me out a little. They are very polite and if I am busy they will ask if another time is more convenient. I don't know what the next stage is, will they try to get me to come to a meeting ( if that's what it's called?). Please can anyone give me advice on how to get them to stop calling, as I'm really not interested and to be honest it freaks me out a little ( but each to their own). I really don't want to be rude as we've become quite friendly. Thanks in advance and hope I've not offended anyone

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Clawdy · 20/05/2019 22:35

bookbuddy yes you will, they will ask you why and try to engage you in a long conversation, you'll be seen as a challenge.

HerondaleDucks · 20/05/2019 22:36

I made this mistake. I answered the door one Saturday morning and was nice to them. I politely informed them I was an atheist and did not believe in God or anything spiritual but I respected they had their beliefs. Had a brief 15 min chat, which to my horror was the beginning of them coming around every Saturday and asking for me by name. I was polite the first 5 times and then wised on to them coming at 10am on a Saturday and so refused to answer the door. I lived with housemates and they would answer and they would ask for me and ask how I was.
This went on for 2 years!!!
When I moved house I put a mention in my note to the new owner to never answer the door at 10am on a Saturday as it would be the Jehovah's Witnesses. I hope they heeded my advice.

zebrapig · 20/05/2019 22:52

DH used to get regular visits at one time as he worked from home and engaged with them (he can never get rid of anyone who comes to the door, he's too nice!). I can't remember why they stopped coming, I think he started working in an office so wasn't at home in the day any more. They called at our new house the other Saturday morning, I was in my dressing gown, very grumpy after a bad night with DS and they got a very firm "no thank you" and the door shut. I just can't be doing with it.

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SamanthaJayne4 · 20/05/2019 22:53

I also made the mistake of chatting with JWs. I do believe in God but don't go to church except for occasions (typical C of E). They came back a week later and luckily DH answered the door. I told him to say I was busy! Cowardly but effective!

MooBaaLaLaLa · 20/05/2019 23:02

I waved a very chickenpoxy child at them last time they turned up on my doorstep and said, "He's infectious!" They couldn't run away fast enough, I'm guessing Jehovah doesn't protect from chicken pox!

WorraLiberty · 21/05/2019 00:49

Tell them you have converted to paganism you’ll never see them again.

Again, totally not true.

The whole point of them knocking on doors is to engage in conversation about other faiths or people with no faith.

If you engage, you make it worth their while.

All these little anecdotes about "I said X and they scarpered" don't make sense.

They must be really shit door knockers if their reaction to someone engaging with them is to close down the conversation that they knocked to actually start.

"No thank you, goodbye" does them just as much of a favour as it does you, because they know they're wasting their time and yours.

Birdie6 · 21/05/2019 00:53

My DH used to be a JW . I asked him and he said that all you have to do is to say you don't want any more visits. Or as a PP has said, call or email their head office and ask to be put on their "do not visit" list. They don't visit if they are not welcome, and no they don't have a certain number of people they have to convert.

justinhawkinsnavalfluff · 21/05/2019 01:29

I am an ex JW. Saying you don't want anymore visits should be sufficient. Alternatively purchase a copy of the excellent film Apostasy starring Siobhan Finneran. It's a very realistic film about being a JW and I cannot recommend it enough. It is enough to put anyone off becoming a JW as it shows it in all its empty cold reality. It will soon give them the message your not up for joining.

SpecterLitt · 21/05/2019 02:55

Just say you're a Buddhist and you are happier this way so please can you not knock and discuss because it offends me as I'm comfortable with my faith. They will respect this (usually) and not return.

Timeless19 · 21/05/2019 03:47

I called head office and asked to be removed from their visiting schedule. Haven’t seen one since!

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miggeldysthepres · 25/05/2019 07:51

Right today's the day they are due back. I've written a note, will put inside an envelope so I know whether it's been read. It's basically FiremanKings message word for word- thank you. We are going out for the morning. Wish me luck everyone!

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Accountant222 · 25/05/2019 08:34

The ones that have called here are, old and frail and very polite, not the sort of people I would tell to do one. However, DH had the man flu and was dozing, they knocked and woke him up, I can imagine how that went, they don't knock anymore.

Floods123 · 25/05/2019 08:39

Have had them here. "You belong to a dangerous cult. People die because of the medieval claptrap you believe in" They caught me on a bad day. Never been back.

FiremanKing · 25/05/2019 09:49

You’re welcome.

I hope it has the desired effect.

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miggeldysthepres · 02/06/2019 20:52

They didn't come! We've been away since, so will try again next weekend

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hatter69 · 04/06/2019 16:47

I am in the exact same situation! i was polite at first. Now they come every week and seem to time it just as i get in from the school run. I think ive left it to late to ask them to stop. I may have to actually convert!

Soola · 04/06/2019 16:59

@hatter69

Why on earth would you want this disruption in your family life?

Be an example to your children by showing them that you can be firm but polite in saying no otherwise your children are going to see you as a pushover and may well follow suit.

“Hello, we have just got back from school and I want to see to my children’s needs. I’ve enjoyed our previous chats but I don’t want any more visits from you.”

Then turn and close the door. If they persist then say, “I’m not interested in becoming a JW nor do I want any further discussions about it. Please respect my wishes and do not call again”. Close door.

littlewhitething · 04/06/2019 17:04

I lived in France in the back end of nowhere, so was amazed to see a pair of JW outside my house (a barn actually). Although I speak it fluently, I mumbled something polite but clear enough along the lines of no, not interested, go away ...a month later, 3 English speaking JW arrived "in case I hadn't understood their message". They understood mine!

booksandcaffeine · 04/06/2019 17:13

I made this mistake also, I was expecting a delivery and it was them. I mentioned I was an atheist 🙁

However they haven't been door knocking in my area for months, despite there being a kingdom hall nearby.

TixieLix · 04/06/2019 17:17

Just get a nice sticker for your window....

AdaColeman · 04/06/2019 17:30

An old gentleman I knew used to invite JW in to discuss the Bible by asking, "Would you like to discuss it in Greek or Latin?" They never stayed for very long!

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