So I managed to distance myself from the bully, I’m unable to confront them. Which gave me a lot of time to be able to relax and destress and be kind to myself.
However, they didn’t seem to like it. I am part of a Whatsapp group where the person bullying me is present.. and she has been sending spiteful messages which I am sure are directed at me.
She is well respected by the people in the group , it is widely accepted that she is “brutally blunt” however that she is extremely sensitive. When I tried speaking to her in an honest manner about how I feel she became all vindictive and as she is in a superior position she managed to absolutely smear me, pretend she is going into panick attacks, so forth.. so I was told to be sensitive to her feelings by others...
However, she is the most person out there that when I call her out on absolute rudeness , she says to me “I’m a blunt person, you are just over sensitive”... and goes around to everyone making it sound like I have a mental disorder which is why I’m sensitive.
I have kept my head down and endured this for a while. Now that I’m pregnant , I wanted to keep my emotional distance... however she isn’t liking it and has been still trying to get to me through people I’m still in contact with, who I have some sort of support from.., who are coming to me trying to tell me how I should be forgiving bla bla... yes at the same time, the bully is still at my case sending me things to get under my skin.
So today I lost it, I’ve “let out my bitch”. I sent a forward about brutal honesty.. it says that being brutally honest stems from an unkind heart. That it has nothing to do with honesty but a desired intention to put others down and dismissing how to approach honesty in a way that doesn’t break others. It is strongly worded as it’s a snapshot from a tweet of a clearly hurt individual which I happen to come across today . I made it seem like a generic forward.. but I did in fact mean it to that person because she has been targeting me non stop while pretending to others she is well intentioned. I wanted to leave the group but I really don’t want to look like the dramatic one.
I dislike being passive aggressive but I am unable to confront and I wanted her to feel shit so she stops feeling so entitled to be mean..
So someone from the group replied to the message caught me out .. saying “who is this message pointing towards?”.. clearly noticing what I’m getting at and coming to their defence.
I guess what I did wasn’t right. But it did make me feel good and made the bully feel how they’re making me feel I guess..
But I’m a bit scared as this is new for me and I don’t like how I look like the bully now..