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Anyone regret not having any guests at their wedding?

30 replies

MaryBoBary · 16/05/2019 21:04

We are getting married and it will just be the two of us and our son (3). Lots of reasons for this including my parents being divorced and unable to be civil and neither of us liking to be the centre of attention. I am having a wobble that maybe I would like our immediate family there, but then I remind myself that what I'm worried I will miss, will not be the reality anyway. It will be stressful and awkward and not the lovely family celebration I picture.

Has anyone done this and then regretted their decision not to have any family/friends there? Or has anyone done this and not regretted a thing?

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wellballstoyou · 16/05/2019 21:07

similar situation. 13 yrs later no regrets

IndianaMoleWoman · 16/05/2019 21:08

8 years on, still very happy with our decision.

GassyAss · 16/05/2019 21:09

We had a tiny wedding, 7 guests in total, just immediate family, no extended family, no friends. It was perfect. No regrets.

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MamaRaisingBoys · 16/05/2019 21:12

No regrets

chuffnstuff · 16/05/2019 21:13

8 at mine, including DH's ex (don't ask), wouldn't have had it any other way, bar her.. not that I don't like her but she's in the background of our best photo. Reminds me I must get it photoshopped Grin

LikeTheFruit · 16/05/2019 21:13

One year on and no regrets! Best day ever. Good luck ❤️❤️

Ragwort · 16/05/2019 21:14

We had a very small wedding, three witnesses at the register office & then 2 more joined us for lunch. Absolutely no regrets.

dw23 · 16/05/2019 21:14

Me and my husband did this last year (well and my daughter in my stomach), just the two of us, our photographer and a registry office employee as our witnesses 😂 no regrets at all! I have a huge family who expected a massive do and I'm so happy I didn't buckle under pressure, my mum wasn't too happy though 😇

top2patooties · 16/05/2019 21:15

19 years later, no regrets. All you need is love Wink

vinoandbrie · 16/05/2019 21:16

Tiny wedding, no regrets

TeeBee · 16/05/2019 21:16

Nope

Fatted · 16/05/2019 21:18

I had a big-ish wedding 10 years ago and I regret spending so much money on some people who we invited and have dropped out of our lives since.

Looking back now, I'd have loved to bugger off to Gretna or Vegas!

Myimaginarycathasfleas · 16/05/2019 21:19

Just us and two witnesses, nearly forty years ago. No regrets EXCEPT that I wish we had more photos of the day. (Selfies not a thing then).

RottnestFerry · 16/05/2019 21:22

I did it first time around because I don't like being the centre of attention. No guests at. It caused a lot of upset and I regretted doing it.

Second time around I had a big wedding. Enjoyed every minute.

You will need a couple of witnesses. Good luck!

dramaqueen · 16/05/2019 21:26

We did this but had 4 2 couples as witnesses. I regret asking them as they insisted on "wedding" touches we didn't want (flowers etc). Go for it!

dramaqueen · 16/05/2019 21:26

Ignore the "4"

poppet31 · 16/05/2019 21:28

We got married abroad, just the two of us. No regrets whatsoever. It was so chilled and we had the best time.

KnittingForMittens · 16/05/2019 21:34

Not at all.

Aquamarine1029 · 16/05/2019 21:34

No regrets whatsoever. Eloping was one of the best things we've ever done. We originally planned on a small wedding with immediate family only, but oh MY how quickly did it start to snowball. My mom kicked it off by saying, "Well, we have to have your grandma, so that means your aunt and cousins have to be invited." Her reasoning was that because they lived in the area, we "had" to invite them. Them my MIL started in with the exact same demands. What would have been about 8 people suddenly became a guest list of at least THIRTY.

We absolutely did not want that and just eloped. So glad we did.

YourBonesAreWet · 16/05/2019 21:35

We got married abroad too. Just the two of us. It was perfect for me and I don’t regret it at all.

I do feel guilty about every now and then when my mum brings it up but it was definitely the right choice for us.

fikel · 16/05/2019 21:36

No regrets, just the 2 of us 16 years ago - married in Sri Lanka

Gertruude · 16/05/2019 21:38

No regrets at all at having 4 guests at our wedding abroad - the people we happened to be travelling with. But I do feel like we missed out on an opportunity to get our families together as even now all these years later many of them haven't met. The wedding day itself though? Totally amazing being able to relax and just concentrate on us / each other and not worry about any formalities

Kleptronic · 16/05/2019 21:39

Well I did it last year, and my mother, father and sister have not mentioned my wedding since. That's no loss though, and silence is so much better than the faff and expense.

Arc86 · 16/05/2019 21:41

No regrets at all! Eloped last year in New York, didn’t tell anyone until we came back home. Managed to pay a rather large chunk off our mortgage this year which we never would have managed had we had a big ‘do’

DizzyPigeon · 16/05/2019 21:41

well and my daughter in my stomach

You ate your daughter? ShockWink

This is exactly what I would want to do if I ever got around to getting married (introvert, can't stand to be the centre of attention).

I don't think you'll regret it, given the circumstances.

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