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Should I be suspicious??

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Parapara32 · 16/05/2019 08:14

Clicked on my fiancé’s iPad this morning to check the time and it said there was a notification from messenger 3 hours ago which would have been 3am (ish). He was up drinking till about 2am this morning.

Never really thought anything of it but I’ve just had a look at the iPad now everyone is awake and the last message was yesterday afternoon from a relative.

Does anyone get any notifications from messenger that isn’t actually a message? Could it be a notification of some sort?

I don’t trust him completely hence why I’m paranoid

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FiremanKing · 16/05/2019 08:17

Someone asking him if he got home ok and or has a good time?

MrsElijahMikaelson1 · 16/05/2019 08:18

No - only get notifications of an actual message otherwise what would they be notifying you about? Sorry x

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Parapara32 · 16/05/2019 08:35

He was drinking in the house so wasn’t actually out... don’t know whether to leave it or say something which will turn into an argument

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gobbynorthernbird · 16/05/2019 08:41

I get notifications if someone has (eg) liked a message/photo I've sent.

LemonySippet · 16/05/2019 08:52

I get notifications the app has updated in the middle of the night, and would just swipe them away. That obviously wouldn't be in your message history...

ShatnersWig · 16/05/2019 09:07

Are we suggesting that anyone who receives or sends a message at 3 am is clearly cheating on their partner? Isn't that a bit of a jump? How do we know one of his mates wasn't also up drinking at that time? I often get random friend requests (usually from fake profiles or friends who have had their profiles hacked and cloned) at all hours of the night.

I'm more interested in why he's up until 2 am drinking in the middle of the night.

And why you don't trust him? What has he done in the past? If you don't trust him, why are you engaged?

BigusBumus · 16/05/2019 09:18

I get messenger notifications from Quiz Planet or something and other random things. Its annoying and i don't know how to turn them off, so its entirely possible it was one of those?

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Parapara32 · 16/05/2019 09:20

He has told me it was a message from a guy he works with and he deleted it cause it was rubbish.

He works away from home and will have a drink when he is at home, doesn’t happen that often

We have been engaged a very long time and in that time he has had an emotional affair with someone else.. I’ve tried to move on from this and there is no wedding planned

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HintOfRaspberry · 16/05/2019 09:21

It might have been an update or someone "reacting" (thumbs up, laighing face etc) to a previous message. Those would come up as a notification but wouldn't necessarily show up as the most recent thing in the list of messages if that makes sense.

I understand you're paranoid but it is quite a big jump!

HintOfRaspberry · 16/05/2019 09:23

Oops! Ignore me then.

I rarely delete messages, even rubbish ones. That would make me suspicious. Sorry OP

NoSauce · 16/05/2019 09:24

OP sometimes I get notifications on messenger from those daft quizzes on FB.

NoSauce · 16/05/2019 09:25

But yes it still would have been there this morning.

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Parapara32 · 16/05/2019 09:30

He has told me it was a message from a guy he works with and he deleted it cause it was rubbish.

He works away from home and will have a drink when he is at home, doesn’t happen that often

We have been engaged a very long time and in that time he has had an emotional affair with someone else.. I’ve tried to move on from this and there is no wedding planned

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Parapara32 · 16/05/2019 09:31

Don’t know why that’s sent twice!

Don’t understand why you would delete a message from a work colleague even if it is rubbish. I told him I’m paranoid as he’s aware and he’s told me after what happened before he would never do anything like this again... so my head is minced again

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NoSauce · 16/05/2019 09:34

Does he always delete messages?

OKBobble · 16/05/2019 09:46

Also messenger sends notifications if they do updates usually in the night

magicstar1 · 16/05/2019 09:55

I normally get an email notification of a FB message too - it could still be in the emails.

DulcieRay · 16/05/2019 10:18

If you don't trust him walk away
The message is irrelevant

IronManisnotDead · 16/05/2019 10:21

Why are you engaged to a man you do not trust?

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