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What is missing from your life...

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Sarcelle · 16/05/2019 07:58

As title says, what ONE thing is missing from your life, and do you plan to do anything about it?

Mine is passion. I don't have it in my relationship or in any part of my life. Life is okay for me, but just ticking along. A bit meh. I have no idea how to get back passion into my relationship but I am going to try a few hobbies to see if I can be passionate about something, anything...

You?

OP posts:
ssd · 16/05/2019 08:00

Family, apart from dh and the dcs I have no one.
I can't do anything about it either.

NoonAim · 16/05/2019 08:05

ssd Flowers that's really tough, sorry.

For me it's joy. And the sad thing is I can't even think what might bring me joy Sad

EmpressLesbianInChair · 16/05/2019 08:09

Well, being able to buy my own place in a few years will be good but otherwise I think I’m covered.

I’m single by choice, childfree by choice, because both of those are crucial to my health & happiness & once I had that clear, the rest more or less fell into place. Finding joy was about eliminating what I didn’t want as much as recognising what I do want.

Original poster
Sarcelle · 16/05/2019 08:17

@ssd - I am in the same boat, but no kids (through choice). But I do miss having a close family. Mine are all dead or scattered. Funny, that never even entered my head when I started the thread.

OP posts:
ineedaknittedhat · 16/05/2019 15:45

Comfortable shoes. I have hyper mobility and my right ankle is so weak all I can wear are trainers. Trainers aren't a good look when you want to wear a pretty top and a string of pearls. I bought some expensive foot friendly shoes last month, but they're too flat and I can't walk in them. Don't even get me started on sandals. All I want to be able to do is walk around 😢

CabbageHippy · 16/05/2019 15:49

My cat, she passed away in January & I miss her so so much

EmpressLesbianInChair · 16/05/2019 15:53

I'm so sorry, CabbageHippy. Flowers

BlueMerchant · 16/05/2019 15:54

Adventure. I like to be in my comfort zone and I feel a need to be in control. I'd love to think sod it and take my family on a big spontaneous adventure.

Fatted · 16/05/2019 15:54

My old car.

Pipandmum · 16/05/2019 15:56

My late husband. Died suddenly at 51 when my kids were 4 and 6. Ladies please appreciate the man you are married/partnered to. I wish I had been kinder and more loving. We had a good marriage but I know I could have done better.

PestoSnowissimos · 16/05/2019 15:56

DH - it’s been 6 years since he passed away Sad

JacquesHammer · 16/05/2019 15:57

Another child.

Thought I had come to terms with it but really struggling at the moment.

Flowers to everyone feeling sad

aprarl · 16/05/2019 15:58

Children. I still can't quite believe that we'll never have them, but we won't.

Thanks pip and pesto, I can't begin to imagine.

Aimily · 16/05/2019 16:07

My job. I love it but was really struggling, feeling emotional and overwhelmed with hormones and brain fog (really bad brain fog, I couldn't concentrate) So needed out.
I stopped working last week for annual leave and then am either returning for 6 weeks or start maternity leave in 2 weeks. I'm really liking being home, getting things organised and having me time. I've spent a lot of time with my dad this week which I haven't done for years... But I miss being in the office, I miss the girls.
On one hand I've not really been doing my job for a while, I've handed clients over to team mates in preparation for being away. So part of me thinks I should just stay home and not go back until after mat leave next year, while the other part thinks, I miss being there...

Plenty of people Inc midwife and dp have advised staying home because I will only have 6 weeks left until DC arrives.

GlitterPixie · 16/05/2019 16:12

Friends

Tighnabruaich · 16/05/2019 16:18

Will power. If only I had a shred of will power.

rosydreams · 16/05/2019 16:21

purpose

I have a life family but i have no purpose apart from motherhood.I wanted to go to uni study learn and discover science. But i know realistically thats a fantasy.

Truth is i have poor English skills,grammar and had no support at school. Came from poverty and have hands like a elderly person due to cerebral palsy. Its not happening thus try to make the most of what i can get thats all you can do

stayathomer · 16/05/2019 16:25

Time for me. Wow, I didn't even think that but 4 kids and I'm self employed and I miss having nothing to do. I run everywhere, am always planning, say yes to everything and I'm wrecked ( but fairly happy. Just tired!) Hugs to everyone here

Mumble29 · 16/05/2019 16:26

a job, I left mine in February due to my mental health issues Sad

Ounce · 16/05/2019 16:26

Private means.

I loathe having to work for a living.

Badwifey · 16/05/2019 16:28

Passion here too...

Badwifey · 16/05/2019 16:29

Also to add.. I don't think there is anything I can do to bring it back.

keepingbees · 16/05/2019 16:30

Support Sad

EssentialHummus · 16/05/2019 16:36

I was going to post but what I have to write is so trivial compared to others that it really doesn’t bear mentioning.

RoryGillmoresEvilTwin · 16/05/2019 16:40

Money. Everything else missing or causing anxiety would be solved by it.

I'm attempting to change things but it's going to a long road.

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