...my meetup group.
Backstory, about a year maybe more or so ago, I met this girl at a bus stop and we got chatting (probably my first mistake) and it turns out she lived near me so silly me thought 'oh wouldn't it be nice to have a friend nearby'. So we exchanged details. I did notice from the start that she was very bolshy, but didn't think anything of it. Thought she was just a chatty, bubbly mama-bear sort.
I was wrong. Anyway, fast forward a few weeks -during which she had asked for a shit ton of inconvenient but small favors and she has got real close real fast (another red flag) -I am sitting in her living room and told her a story about something bad that had happened to me and > she victim blamed and then when I dared to say 'I see where you are coming from but I don't agree' - she screamed at me. Literally screamed 'do not argue with me, I will NOT be argued with!' Finally it clicked - she is coocoo for cocopuffs. Never seen anything like it in my life.
So I tried to separate myself from the friendship slowly. She noticed. And sent me a tirade of the most vile abuse I have ever seen via text.
Anyway it's a year later and I haven't seen her since...but I have created a meetup group and she has just asked to join it. Our first meet is up and she can see where it is going to be! I have refused her outright (do you think I should have said something to her?) and changed my group to private. I have also changed my planned events location albeit to somewhere not far away as I don't like to put those who have already subscribed, off.
Is there anything else I should be doing? My stomach is literally doing summersaults at the thought of this utter fruitcake showing up or causing me problems. And I can totally see her doing it because she is utterly unhinged.