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If a reception child deliberately kicked another child in class and broke that child’s leg, and that child needed surgery what would you expect to happen at school ?

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Lardlizard · 14/05/2019 08:58

For the child that got injured and the child that did it

And the incident was witnessed by the teacher

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RiddleyW · 14/05/2019 10:27

The thinly veiled victim blaming on this thread is eye opening

Where? I think most people have been pretty balanced - there isn't enough to go on really is there?

RageAgainstTheVendingMachine · 14/05/2019 10:29

Kicker - fixed term exclusion unless repeated incident. If SEND, then school needs to improve safeguarding of other pupils and review provision for that pupil especially monitoring during breaktimes
Kickee - work sent back home while recuperating, support when returning to school especially if in plaster/crutches, class card signed post operation, safe space available on return
Mediation - teacher in charge of safeguarding/senco and/or class teacher sits children down to discuss what happened and for the kicker to apologise

Eliza9919 · 14/05/2019 10:35

I would expect the kicker to be expelled.

How could the kid that got injured feel safe around that kid in the future? And why should the injured kid move schools because of it? The kid that did it should.

Plus, why should everyone else's kid have to be around such a violent child? The kid should be sent to a specialist school set up for such violent children.

Isitweekendyet · 14/05/2019 10:35

Usually to their age people will make excuses he’s only little etc, they have no concept of others feeling, blah blah blah.

But that child has some severe behavioural issues to break someone’s leg.

The school’s decision would be lose that kid or mine. I wouldn’t leave my child in an environment where he was at risk of having a limb broken:

Isitweekendyet · 14/05/2019 10:38

I would also go to the press if they didn’t at least exclude the kicker, that needs coming down on like a tonne of bricks.

teyem · 14/05/2019 10:39

But that child has some severe behavioural issues to break someone’s leg.

Severe behavioural issues might make it more likely for this child to kick another but it doesn't imbue them with special Kung Fu super powers to make it more likely for them to break a kid's leg with a single kick.

SoupDragon · 14/05/2019 10:42

why should everyone else's kid have to be around such a violent child?

We have no idea whether the child is genuinely violent, was goaded to the point of retaliation, just caught the leg at an unlucky angle... you can't simply state they are violent on the paltry information in the first post. Reception age kids often kick, without further information it's impossible to tell what the circumstances were.

GreatestShowUnicorn · 14/05/2019 10:44

Awaiting more info

Nousernameforme · 14/05/2019 10:49

Similar happened to a friend of a friend the boy with the broken leg it turned out had bone cancer.
I think the kick should be treated as any other incident at school. Even if the child had wanted to break the other childs leg its unlikely they would have been able too.

Are we ever going to get the op back? Or is this just some rhetorical question on whether the outcome, regardless of intention, effects the level of punishment.

ScrambledSmegs · 14/05/2019 10:51

Reception? I genuinely don't think any reception-age child would have the physical strength to break another child's leg with a kick. Unless maybe there was a medical issue that made the child more susceptible to bone fractures? In which case it may not have needed to be a particularly hard kick.

Need more information really.

BurnedToast · 14/05/2019 10:57

Impossible to say without all the information.

RaffertyFair · 14/05/2019 11:23

The kid should be sent to a specialist school set up for such violent children.

Ffs what a ridiculous thing to say on the basis of the information given by the OP

Woodifer · 14/05/2019 11:51

When my DS went into reception he was pretty hitty until Christmas - we worked really hard with his teacher (support, role playing, consequences at school and at home). He never broke anyone's anything, but on occasion left red marks.

He was overwhelmed with the new school environment, and found it difficult to control impules. He was almost always instantly remorseful - and also still learning about the consequences of his actions on others (eg when told off for hitting another child with a book, and sent to his room on getting home as part of consequences, I went up to chat to him, and he said he had (in his room) tried hitting himself with a book and it "really did hurt mummy" (he hadn't actually realised!) and then he "wrote" an apology letter.).

This impulse to react isn't always malicious in such young children. My son needed help to adapt to school environment and learning to control himself. Like any skill some learn this earlier than others.

VladmirsPoutine · 14/05/2019 11:57

Has the major drip-feed not been dropped yet?

NannyRed · 14/05/2019 12:07

Are the victims leg bones made out of breadstick?

Sockwomble · 14/05/2019 12:20

"The kid should be sent to a specialist school set up for such violent children."

Schools like these for 5 year olds are very rare so that is unlikely to happen.
Although a 5 year old being able to break another child's leg by kicking is also unlikely to happen.

Kaddm · 14/05/2019 12:27

Holy shit!

I’d think the school should tell parents of broken leg child to get a check done on bones for any problems.

Regarding the leg breaker, I expect some sort of “investigation” and then no action or consequences. It’s 2019. Kids can get away with anything. My ds was the subject of a violent assault leading to medical care. Bully declared it “an accident”. No action or consequences Hmm
And we wonder why people are getting knifed and shot in Britain.

00100001 · 14/05/2019 12:30

I'm only here for the drip feed

Offallycheap · 14/05/2019 12:30

Reporting

Yabbers · 14/05/2019 12:31

Children’s bones are more fragile than some seem to realise here. DD fractured her leg overnight in bed and we have no idea how. We were told by the consultant that fractures like that are surprisingly common.

I would expect there to be an investigation, for the child to be suspended. I wouldn’t necessarily say excluded permanently, it really would depends on what the child actually did. “A kick” can mean a lot of different things. It also matters what they were doing at the time. Was it a roughhouse game, or game of football, or did the child just attack in a fit of rage?

00100001 · 14/05/2019 12:32

"I’d think the school should tell parents of broken leg child to get a check done on bones for any problems. "

Fairly sure the Dr doing the operation will have checked for problems Confused

"No action or consequences hmm
And we wonder why people are getting knifed and shot in Britain."
You know we're talking about a FOUR YEAR OLD?

I'm going out on a limb and saying this kid isn't a knife carrying loon.

teyem · 14/05/2019 12:32

I wish they'd hurry up. I'm waiting to find out how a 5yo Jackie Chan managed to break a kid's leg with amazing special need super powers and get away with it and thus fueling the knife crime epidemic, like a tiny evil genius.

managedmis · 14/05/2019 12:33

Call the plumber

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