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Shall I go to GP?

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MaybeMonday · 13/05/2019 22:20

I made a GP appointment two weeks ago. It was the soonest available. It's due tomorrow but I'm feeling slightly better at the moment. Shall I cancel (it would be the second cancellation) on the basis that I probably will feel worse again soon and appointments are so hard to get.

My situation is; three teenage DS. DS3 doing GCSEs soon, DS2 doing A levels soon and DS 1 doing nothing much having messed up his A levels last year. He's doing bits of work and deciding what to do next but in the meantime drinks a lot, sleeps a lot and causes arguments amongst us all. Divorced about four years ago. Ex contributes financially but not often around as he moved away after divorce.

I work FT I also have sole responsibility for DM who has Alzheimer's and lives 400 miles away. She has carers (funded by SS)but they just come in for half an hour at a time and give her snack and help her wash etc. I manage everything else eg. Maintain the house, garden, medical appointments, shopping etc. I am utterly utterly exhausted and frazzled. Permanently weepy, angry and at the end of my tether. Neither DM or I can afford to pay for any extra help. I have been begging for more help from SS for about a year but keep being told there is no more. I think DM should really go into residential care closer to our home but SS don't agree and we can't afford private.

I am doing all the right things to cope with the stress. I try to sleep enough, I get lots of fresh air and exercise and I don't smoke or drink. When I can I spend time with my lovely, supportive friends and I am also lucky enough to have a counsellor which is subsidised by my local carers charity. But I am still utterly at the end if my tether. I don't know why I made the appointment, I don't know what I expect him to do. Is there anything a GP can do? I don't really want anti depressants. I don't think there is anything wrong with my brain chemistry I am just under enormous pressure.

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HollowTalk · 13/05/2019 22:25

You poor thing. You must be under incredible stress.

You're right about your mum - she needs residential care near to you. That would take a huge load off you.

Why do SS say that she's in the best place now? It doesn't make a lot of sense. Is it just a financial decision on their part? Does she own her own home or rent?

As for your oldest son, time for you to get really tough with him. Could he go to live with your ex? He's at an age where it's completely normal to go off to university or into a flat-share. Wouldn't it work for the best if your ex took some responsibility for him now?

HollowTalk · 13/05/2019 22:26

One time when I was under intense pressure I was prescribed beta blockers. I didn't notice any difference for two or three weeks but then felt I was able to cope with the pressure. I didn't actually take them for more than a month or two and stayed OK afterwards.

You do need to speak to your GP and take whatever help you can get.

gamerchick · 13/05/2019 22:27

That doesnt mean a doctor can't help.

I'm not prone to depression or anything like that but a prolonged massive period of stress really took its toll and the GP helped me with beta blockers for anxiety. Just having someone to listen and take me seriously helped. Prolonged stress is really bad for your body as well as your mental health, I didn't appreciate that at the time.

Please keep the appointment. Flowers

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