I feel guilty when I put my baby down

[Littlebees]

He's 4 months now, always been a clingy baby and cluster feeds a lot (EBF). He won't sleep unless he's in my arms and always wakes when I try and put him down.
I get to the point where I feel guilty putting him down for a few minutes to nip to the loo or get a drink/food. I try carry him from room to room with me but there has to be occasions where I simply can't.
Why do I feel so guilty?!

Mum guilt fills our lives and takes over us I’m afraid. If he went down a lot you’d feel guilty for not cuddling him enough I’m sure of it. I think it’s important as mums that we come to terms with the fact no matter what we do we will always be feeling some form of mum guilt because we are our worse enemies.

Trust me he is fine when you put him down, sometimes you need a wee or a shower or simply just a minute without being attached to a baby.

Your not doing anything wrong, he won’t remember the time you left him for a minute to nip for a wee and he will get over it xx

It sounds so obvious when you put it like that. I'm forever wondering if I should be doing things different and my family don't help when they criticise me for not putting him down!

Have you got a sling OP? Absolute lifesaver if you haven't, frees up your hands and gives baby all the cuddles they need.

It is hard though, I remember feeling the same when my two were that age, there are times when you just need ten mins to have a hot drink without anyone touching you. I think some days it felt like I was wearing a baby in some form or other from the second I woke up until the second I went to bed!

Don't feel guilty, it sounds like you're doing a fab job! there's a massive developmental leap at about four months too, have a look at the wonder weeks app, puts a lot into context and helps you feel like it's not just your baby doing xyz!

Someone always has an opinion on what your doing when it comes to raising a baby. You know best!
I second the use of a sling mine was a lifesaver

hang in there. It will get easier when they are just a little older and can hold toys and sit in a high chair etc. There is also a big sleep regression at 4 months it’s a rough time!