DH and his snoring

[UserAlice]

Oh god what can I do?!

We are currently on holiday. I’m 23 weeks pregnant with our first and this is supposed to be our last bit of R&R just the two of us before our lives change forever!

DH has always been a bit of a snorer but as long as I fell asleep before him it rarely disrupted my sleep. I’m a good and generally quite heavy sleeper.

However, I haven’t been sleeping well recently and his snoring now just keeps me awake / wakes me up. It is SO LOUD. We have such a disturbed night (me not sleeping, him being nudged and poked by me to shut up) we both end up very grumpy in the morning. It’s ruined a couple of mornings of our holiday.

DH is overweight and when he lost weight last year his snoring improved. He knows that he would benefit from losing some weight for all sorts of reasons, and he says he will try again when we get home. He isn’t really a drinker and has even stopped having the odd beer or glass of wine this holiday to try and reduce the snoring but it hasn’t worked.

Is there anything we can do in addition to DH trying to lose a bit of weight? Do those strips work if you’re overweight? I really don’t want to sleep in separate rooms - we both love sharing a bed together and this would be an absolute last resort.

I feel awful... I’ve just stomped out of the bedroom at the hotel where we were supposed to be having a nap after a few hours walking around the local town. I woke him up by swearing loudly and he was so worried there was something wrong but really I was just so fed up with the constant loud snoring and wanted to escape to the balcony.

Any ideas anyone? Feeling really emotional about it today. I know it’s not his fault but I’m just at my wits end today.

Ear plugs?

Nasal strips for him and ear plugs for you to get you both through the rest of the holiday and also going to bed 20-30 minutes before him so you're asleep before he starts snoring. Then when you get home he should go see his GP as the level of snoring you've described can be a sign of obstructive sleep apnea, untreated this can lead to various complications.

Ear plugs! Used them for years. Snorestore sell multi sets so you can try many diff styles and work out which is most comfortable for you

Orthopaedic pillow for DH also helped

Otherwise no anti snore device works! We've tried them!

Oh gosh I really feel for you. DP and I have separate beds these days - it may not seem very romantic but you can always get in together for a cuddle and just go your separate ways to sleep. You’re still in the same room but somehow being that little bit further apart does help. (DP is also a fidget so I can’t sleep next to him at all!) Ask at reception if you can swap to a twin room.

I also wear ear plugs, but obvs that won’t be a solution once the baby is here, so he needs to take responsibility for sorting it out before then.

Sleep deprivation is a bastard and it will be doubly awful with a new baby in the mix.

For the rest of the holiday make sure you get to bed before him, buy some ear plugs and nose strips today and potentially put on some white noise or music to try and drain out the stopping and starting of the snoring.

get him sent for a proper sleep test, he may well have sleep apnea.

The spouse wearing ear plugs is not a solution.

My DH went to the GP and they weren't interested unless you regularly hold your breath in your sleep. My DH does do this from time to time but still they weren't interested

did he have a proper sleep test?

Once I was pregnant and we had kids the depth of my sleep changed dramatically and I couldn’t sleep beside dh,
For years we started together and then one of us would move. Now my kids are a bit older but my back is sore so we’re no even starting together.
I can share bedrooms away with friends/ sisters but not anyone who snores, I’m allergic. It gives me a rage and I can’t fall asleep because I’m anxiously waiting for the snoring to start. Our relationship is better because our sleep is better but it’s not what I wanted and I do sometimes resent dh for not trying EVERYTHING to fix it. He’s more accepting of the way things are than I am.

Good luck op
Being married to a snorer is a curse

No the GP wasn't interested in referring him.

My FIL has sleep apnea so we know all about it and is why he went to the doctor

Thank you for all the suggestions so far.

I didn’t think GP would be bothered given he is overweight? I assumed the first piece of advice would be to lose weight and come back if that doesn’t work...

overweight men are more prone to sleep apnea. A friend has just been diagnosed and his doctor reckoned at least half of all men have it. Given that my friend was found to be waking up every 2 minutes on average, had his driving licence removed until this got under control, and has to sleep with an oxygen mark on (but is now getting a proper night's sleep), it's pretty bloody serious and I would push push push for a sleep test to be done.

They'll commence treatment, if treatment is needed, before addressing things like weight management because it's important that it's gotten under control as quickly as possible.

I have a snore guard. I got one made by the dentist laboratory. It brings lower jaw forwards and therefore opens the airwaves. It works very well. You can buy snore guards online but I wanted custom made.