“ Never a cross word”

[Bunnylady53]

Does anyone ever actually experience a relationship like this? I just don’t think it’s possible! Unfortunately DH & I have had far too many cross words but glad to say they are mostly in the past.

Once. He was so laid back I used to wonder if he was conscious some of the time. I ditched him because it was boring.

If there's truly never a cross word spoken I would assume either a) one person is very passive and agrees with everything the other half in the relationship says and does

and/or b) there's little to no passion in the relationship. I certainly don't think that lots of screaming and yelling = grand passion, but to never have a falling out seems mild to an uninterested degree.

When people say that I take it to mean no horrible fights.
It's not possible to never have a cross word in 50 years of marriage - I'm assuming this is in the context of the review of a very long relationship

There was a nice comment on “ Our Dementia Choir” ( which incidentally is a must see & I defy you not to cry) - “ Married 50 years & never a cross word. Got a bloody great blister on my tongue”! Lol 😂

I know what you mean.
People dont mean this stuff literally, imo

My dad and his wife. They're so laid back, they're practically horizontal but it works for them.
My DH and I don't shout at each other, we're not that kind of people. We snap at each other a bit, but soon realise we need a heart to heart!

I'm always wondering this. When people say they never fight with their partners, do they mean they never yell or they never get annoyed with each other? We bicker but it's not shouting. It's more like
'why are you waiting to break and getting so close to other cars?'
'well it's cruise control!'
'well it's making us all sick'
'I'll get speeding tickets otherwise. Stop interfering with my driving!'

This obviously never actually happened

I never argued with my first partner, if something was bothering one of us we would just talk about it to sort it out.

My PIL.

Although it's only because my FIL just does as he's told for an easy life. He worships my MIL and would never upset her by answering her back.

DH and I do argue. Usually over his driving.

DH and I have been together for 30 years and I could count the real arguments we have had on one hand. Of course we annoy each other from time to time but we just aren't high conflict people. We have three "kids" aged 16-25 and have never had an argument with any of them either, we discuss things we need to but can't see any point in having discussions that aren't respectful. We can all tolerate someone else having a different point of view. It sounds like we are very strange but it's just normal for us.

@SnowsInWater it doesn't sound strange. It's what I would prefer. I find bickering even when it's not shouting stressful.

I wish this was us!! Our arguments tend to be money related. I often wonder if the pressure was off, would things be calmer? I'm certain that they would be.

My husband and I have been together 10 years and have two kids. He has never ever been cross with me. We farm and the only time he has ever raised his voice to me is in a sheep related situation where I've made a mistake but it's forgotten once the moment has passed. I get cross at him sometimes but he is so laid back. We just don't have arguments

We talk things out. Outs not boring. It's nice! We make each other laugh a lot instead.