I’ve just mortified myself

[Inarightpickleandchutney]

I’ve known this guy for 15 years give or take. Thought he was nice and attractive but I never thought anything of it as I was married.

I’ve been divorced a while now and after a wine decided to message him asking him for a drink, said I’ve always liked him and it would be nice to spend some time together.

He has not replied at all.

It’s been 2 days.

I’m moving to Australia and have booked my face transplant and new passport.

I was married a long time and this was the first time I’ve ever asked someone out (not even for a date, just to spend time!!!) and it went so wrong:

Help me not crawl under a rock please????

Delete his number so you don't do it again

I speak from experience. Other than that this shall pass and if he ever brings it up just feign ignorance

You could add just as friends of course but it's far too late now I think

You live you , you learn!
He wouldn’t be feeling this way if he’d done the same would he?!
So, why should you!

Nothing to add other than you’re awesome Emigration/surgery jokes made me snort!

Ahh well done for being brave. Sorry you're cringing but you did nothing wrong at all.

Thank you all! He’s definitely read it yes (2 x blue ticks!)
I need to remind myself that all I did was ask he’s said nothing so it’s not the end of the world!

Funny how this can make you feel absolutely mortified even as a grown adult!!

He's rude if he doesn't respond.

Just chat to him normally next time you see him. It'll become a big deal if you make it one.

I once texted my landlord asking him out. Needless to say he declined and didn't want to mix business with pleasure. It was embarrassing but I got over it.

Well it's very rude of him not to respond. But because he hasn't I think you can cancel the face transplant and treat it as never having happened. I definitely wouldn't send another message.
You'll need to grow a thicker skin if you're planning on dating!

Thank you. I’m thinking I should just pop it in the ‘that never happened’ box in my mind and try to move on.

Thanks for the reality check, I could have actually melted my face is almost purple with embarrassment

Ah, fair play to you. Goodness me, you’re both feee and single, I’m sure he can handle a come-on. This takes guts. If he feels awkward, never mind, move on, you’ve hardly insulted him. Enjoy this new start and go for it. Maybe next time, you’ll get someone who appreciates your spirit. I’m in awe!

Er, free. Not feee ☺️

I think it’s great you were brave enough to ask! It’s always worth a try and actually if anyone should be embarrassed it’s him for his complete lack of manners in blue ticking you

Inarightpickleandchutney
Any update ?

This is going to be complicated! When I embarrass myself I pretend to be the person that the world sees, just Jayaywhynot, the "outer me", the body and face that everyone sees."Inside" me" is the real me, the one that looks out onto the world, the me that has thoughts and feelings that no one else knows about, the me that loves, feels and thinks. So when I do something to embarrass myself I pretend to be the me that the world sees not the inside me. Hence no embarrassment, Voila!, try it, it works

It’s not on not to respond but the message sounds a bit full if out of the blue. Next time maybe just stop at the ‘let’s have a drink’ part!

Don’t worry though, we live and learn!

You could send “whoops! Think I texted wrong number - sorry!”

Doh! Just noticed how old this thread is

Ooh I must buy a new hat.

Not for your wedding, but to shove over your head/face.

Joking, but fair play to you.

Next time, maybe just suggest a drink though. No more.

Then suss out the vibe, over a vat of Gin sophisticated wine