Stopmeifyouveheardthisonebefor ·
12/05/2019 14:27
I have a friend of over 10 years that I know originally from school gates years. Me, “Jane” and “Ann” all had dc in same primary class and were close, meeting up often with and without dc.
Several years ago Jane’s DM died and Jane has not been same since. She has admitted to being depressed but won’t seek help. She has always been a little reluctant to make plans in advance and liked to leave it to last minute to commit but in past we did actually meet up in end, more recently the chances are she won’t come.
Ann and I got tired of never seeing each other and so started making plans and then asking Jane along rather than doing it as a mutual thing which upset Jane I think.
Anyway it occurs to me just now when I suggested meeting for her birthday and she replied saying she wasn’t bothered that perhaps it isn’t a case of Jane feeling too down/anxious to meet up but she has moved on from our friendship and is trying to phase me and Ann out.
I don’t want to give up on Jane if she is in a bad place but life is too short and I have too much else going on to waste time flogging a dead horse if she has just moved on.
WWYD? I think Jane would just get massively defensive if I asked her straight out.