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just a bit of anonymous support please

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pippy3483 · 12/05/2019 12:19

nc for obvious reasons, since losing my husband alcohol has crept up and up, drinking a bottle of wine a night every night. None of my family know I live alone.

Anyhow early this year after my nightly intake I fell,

badly broke several bones and was admitted to hospital days later after being unable to even get out of bed. I stayed in hospital for over two weeks, I was scared really scared, I have now been sober for almost three months. It's hard and I know three months isn't long but I am hoping and praying things will get easier and continue to be sober. Thank you for reading. x

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IHopeYouStepOnALegoPiece · 12/05/2019 12:21

3 months is fantastic, you should be very proud of yourself.

I hope you haven’t sustained any long term damage from the fall? How scary for you

You’ve done a fantastic job so far x

AlwaysCheddar · 12/05/2019 12:22

Well done for being sober! 3 months is a big achievement. Are you going to AA, or gave other support? Three months is huge when at one point you may not have gone 3 hours without a drink .

cakeandchampagne · 12/05/2019 12:25

Congratulations on 3 months! Star

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pippy3483 · 12/05/2019 12:46

Thank you for very kind words, made me feel very emotional, AlwaysCheddar, no, no help it's my very guilty secret no-one knows (except mumsnet) x

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Mississippilessly · 12/05/2019 12:50

You're doing amazingly well.
Is there really no one IRL you could confide in? It would be great to share how far you have come.

MrsMozartMkII · 12/05/2019 13:01

You've been through an awful time lass.

Keep taking one step at a time and the three months will become four and so on. You've done it this far and you will keep doing it.

Curious1982 · 12/05/2019 13:03

Op you should be damn bloody proud of yourself. Seriously

Do you have any children?

AndSheWas85 · 12/05/2019 13:04

You should be proud of everyone of those days in the 3 months. You are doing amazingly well.
Keep it up OP🌟🌟🌟

chatnicknameyousuggested · 12/05/2019 13:04

Well done! It is the best thing you can do for youself, and for your children, if you have them. Keep it up!

TheBrilloPad · 12/05/2019 13:06

OP, three months is amazing, you've done so well. Particularly since you're doing it alone - it so much easier with support. Have you had to look to see if there are AA meetings around you? It would probably be one of the best things you could do. Amazing support, something to do in the evenings to get you out the house and out of your routine of drinking etc. You don't need to tell any family etc you are going. I'd recommend it so so much.

Dillyson · 12/05/2019 13:06

You're doing really well. Take things slowly and be kind to yourself.
Grief is such a powerful emotion. It will get better with time.

AdiosAdipose · 12/05/2019 13:09

Well done Pippy. 3 months on your own is an amazing achievement and you should be very proud!

Please don't be ashamed to ask for some help if you need it though. Don't let that undo the hard work you've already done.

I hope you're healing well. Sounds like the fall was terrible but you've turned something awful into inspiration for something better which is an amazing attitude - Keep up the fab work Flowers

ajandjjmum · 12/05/2019 13:11

Hats off to you - you've done so well. I hope that in time you'll feel able to share this with those who love you - you'll be an inspiration to others.

marvellousnightforamooncup · 12/05/2019 13:11

Well done, that's a real achievement. Keep it up!

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pippy3483 · 12/05/2019 13:16

Curious, yes 4 DC all doing well but not living close by.

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FiremanKing · 12/05/2019 13:17

3 months is a great achievement. Being in the grip of an addiction plus personal problems can at times feel insurmountable but you have done so and should feel proud.

Do you think you could aim to continue your sobriety but with a view to inspiring others? Whether it be in training to be a support worker or some other way to inspire and motivate others?

Curious1982 · 12/05/2019 13:19

Do they know or suspect any problem with drink?

NottonightJosepheen · 12/05/2019 13:30

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pippy3483 · 12/05/2019 13:30

Curious, absolutely not, alcoholics are very good liars/pretenders. Shame, self loathing and the fear of not being found out, being a disappointment kept the secret, goal now is to start liking/loving myself x
Fireman, maybe down the line, early days x

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Livingthedream12345 · 12/05/2019 13:32

Well done Pippy. Be proud of yourself.

over50andfab · 12/05/2019 13:37

So sorry to hear of your loss OP and the recent accident. Really well done for acknowledging you have a problem with alcohol and 3 months is great going 👍🏻

Do you have a focus to help you deal with this? Yes, AA is an option, or having a chat with your GP to explore other options - perhaps grief counselling or a similar support group? Confiding in a friend is another option. Or finding something to concentrate on - a hobby like a walking group (especially now we’re coming into the better weather). Or perhaps the gym/local Pilates class or some such? See your DC more? Or plan a trip away?

I speak from past experience of have a trauma that made me want to isolate myself - metaphorically hide away and lick my wounds - and I found alcohol helped at the time. However I was aware that in the long run it wouldn’t so I cut down and monitored - something I understand some can do and some can’t with no judgement apportioned to either. Anyway, the gym was my go to and I also have friends there I could confide my problems too which helped.

ThatCurlyGirl · 12/05/2019 13:44

@pippy3483 Three months is a huge achievement - I had a life changing accident which put a stop to what was a pretty out of control lifestyle as the accident put me in hospital for a few months.

It stopped me in my tracks and I've been clean and sober since - I don't think I would be otherwise. Although the accident was unrelated to my wild behaviour, I still bear a feeling of guilt that I wouldn't have been able to ask for help otherwise - I'm here willing you on to come though the other side.

You've been through a terrible time, try to reflect on how awful it made you feel to be dependent on alcohol and try hard to be proud of your accomplishment of three months so far x

Curious1982 · 12/05/2019 13:55

@pippy3483

My mother died of alcoholism.
Yes they are good liars, but there’s a tipping point, and then it becomes clear, very clear

Mythreefavouritethings · 12/05/2019 14:17

It’s a cliche but one day at a time, and where you can find a little daylight (something nice to eat, a hot soak in a bubble bath, coffee somewhere nice) take it. It may only be a sliver but sometimes it’s finding little anchors to get you through the days. And if you struggle, post here or ask for some help, it’s a tough road but there is always someone who will listen/read.

whingeygingy · 12/05/2019 14:36

I have metal pins both sides of ankle from falling over drunk and can't remember how it happened😙now moved away and did not booze yesterday.one day at a time and distract yourself doing other things

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