If the you today could meet the you from five years ago

[Kannet]

Would they be pleased.

Been contemplating this today with a friend. I think mine would be delighted as I have two happy healthy kids and that didn't look likely five year ago

My friend said she would be disappointed as her life has not moved on very much. Nothing major just still in her job, not lost weight and so on.

5 years ago I was in a job I hated, in a relationship which was OK but going nowhere and fat. I wasn't unhappy as such but things were not perfect.

Now I am living in a different (awesome) city, in a better paying job that I love, a healthy weight and in the very first stages of a new relationship which is going really well.

I think 5 years ago me would have been terrified at all the change but pleased!

I'd be disappointed as not much has happened..... now if I were to meet the me from ten years ago, she would be gobsmacked!

Oh forgot to say that the me from five years ago would be happy with how ds is turning out and that the work situation has massively improved so it's not all bad.

I'd say stop fucking about at the job you hate. There is s much better one right round the corner which will make you so much happier

They would be amazed. 5 years ago I was homeless and an addict after being in a terrible relationship with a man who forced me into prostitution and then tried to kill me.
Today I'm in a flat with my dog and baby asleep on me, I'm clean, teetotal and healthy. 5 years ago I expected to be dead by now.

Wow vampirethriller. That's an amazing turnaround. Well done

Thanks!

I would tell myself that I will have the DC I dreamed of having, but that OH will be just as much (if not more) of a letdown as always and you should have left him when pregnant, he isn’t going to change. Now I’m stuck.

Career wise yes she'd be pleased, 5 years ago I was facing huge changes in my job, since then I've taken advantage of all the opportunities that came my way and really focused and developed my career into something I love.

I already had DC then, they are both happy and health and great kids so she'd be pleased with that.

I’d say, it’s not you. He is a narcissist (genuine not labelling simple poor behaviour) start working on your self esteem and appreciate your friends. Five years on and I’m slowly waking up to it

No.
I would love to go back five years.

My goodness, yes! The me of five years ago would be thrilled by the me of today, and amazed by the experiences I’ve had along the way.

Five years ago I was married, TTC, had just bought a house and was at the happiest I had ever been. Today, I am trying hard to piece together my life again (and failing) after everything went to shit.l

I’m not sure what the me from 5 years ago would think about me today. She’d be glad I’m married, have a full time job, have bought a house and have a cat (although she wouldn’t know cat she had then was going to die).

Think she’d be a bit sorry for me that my mental health isn’t in a good place at the moment.

I'd say strap yourself in girl, EVERYTHING you think that will happen with your parents, will happen. You are right, dementia signs are there. And no, they won't be amenable to any help. And yes, the whole sorry mess will fall to you to sort.

The me five years ago would be horrified at what the me now has had to go through. Five years ago I thought I was happily married ( there were problems at times but I convinced myself it was my H’s stressful job that made him a bit distant) to my H who I’ve known since we were five. We lived in a lovely detached house with great neighbours in an area I loved. I found out two years ago he’d been unfaithful during our marriage with affairs with colleagues, prostitutes and went dogging.
I now live in an apartment and I’m trying to recover from the shock of my discovery. Didn’t expect all this.

If I met the me of five years ago, she'd have realised that she was very capable at getting out the relationship and taking the DCs away from an abusive parent.

It might have prevented the worst of the MH issues suffered by the DC. But we are clearly thriving without ex.

25 year old me would be fucking furious with me and how little I’ve got to show for my life. 25 yo me had such big plans and 30 year old me has done nothing.

I’m really hoping 35 year old me will be much more impressed with this question

Exactly the same as Telly Savalas 😢

Tons of incredibly stressful stuff happened and I'd put my arms round me and say, it's actually going to work out okay, please enjoy yourself and don't worry.

I would tell them to get help for the anxiety now not wait until everything implodes

I think she’d look at me and be relieved I got there in the end!

Yes. I have 3 kids and a bigger house to keep them in. My relationship with my dh is not great though.

Five years ago today i went for my scan and found out my 'one last dc' would actually be twins taking us from 2 to 4. We had also just moved into a house that was a shithole, but finally had a spare bedroom. I was looking at this move as me getting back into work. Was a bloody hard year, the dts were born 10 weeks early and coincided with dm and df (80 miles away but took our dd's regularly) shifts changing so little support.

5 years later, im fairly happy, today we're all out in the sun having fun, my twins never fail to make me laugh, the bigger dd's amaze me everyday. The house isnt a shithole anymore and no-one moans bout the sofabed. Im still a sahm but have one year left of my ou degree. Mum and dad still work opposite shifts and have only been able to take the girls and dts seperately once but will use their annual leave for us to go to weddings etc

Yes and no.

Hit lots of life goals - bought a house, renovated said house, had two beautiful children, wonderful husband who doing well so we have a happy comfortable life.

But my god I’ve let myself go, put on three stone and pour all my energy into the children and keeping the household going. I’m fat and unfit and knackered. It’s perhaps time to do something about that so in five years I don’t feel the same.