How to deal with a manipulative 7yo ds??

[Loobieloo27]

My ds is a lovely boy, very sensitive to some things.

His issues seem to be with 4yo dd. If he wants something she has he will go on and on about how special something else is, she then wants said item and he gets the toy of choice.
This infuriates me but what do i do about it? Is this just a normal child behaviour. He also believes he is the best at EVERYTHING, he just ends up sounding ridiculously cocky and it makes me cringe when i hear him talking to his friends.

Am i making a big deal out of nothing and this is normal 7 yo behaviour or do need to intervene?

Thanks

Absolutely normal for 7yo's
I'd encourage him to not brag and go on too much but if you spend any time with a group of 7yo, they'll all be similar!

It wouldn't be so bad but he only excels in maths, absolutely loves numbers, everything else he's never done before but according to him its eassssy!

His boasting-
Just kid chat.

You can of course just give him some pointers on how to better interact with us peers but it sounds fairly normal.

The other stuff does too.

It sort of sounds like you don’t like him very much

Very normal between siblings ........give the kid a break.

I love him of course i do, his behaviour and attitude means we just get into a cycle of nagging and constant negatives so we are trying to turn that around for us both. Most days he's the nicest, politest little boy then he turns.

Reasurring to know its pretty standard stuff for a 7 year old.

He isn't 'turning'.

He's being a 7 yr old. A very normal one, honestly. Get off the.kids back and stop seeing things that aren't there. Change your approach, pull him up on the toy bartering by pointing it out and turning it into a joke.

Pull him up on his bragging with a few elevenerife jokes.

Your post does sound very depressing and like you dont like him very much. Nip it in the bud now before it spirals.

Maybe it does sound like i don't like him but thats really not the case. Probably the way i've worded things but i know now its my approach and there is no issues.

I find my DS tricker than my Dd as I find his sense of humour sillier and he and his friends all regularly go to “eleveneriffe” on this holidays then have long lost brothers who drive lotus’. It’s annoying. Dd doesn’t do it but she and her friend are forever falling out over non issues. Horses for courses.

I once overheard my DD summon ds into her bedroom saying she had something for him........my ears immediately pricked up. Knowing my DD and ds if she has anything for him it won't be anything for his benefit.

Gullible ds went in, I sat at the bottom of the stairs listening, and heard ds ask what she had for him. Dd replies I have an order for you, turn out the bedroom light and leave. And to my horror DS did.

Now my response could have been to call dd lazy and sneaky but it wasn't. I responded by booming up the stairs saying I can't believe you fell for that. And to make it worse, you did it !!

DS learned a lesson, DD learned I'm onto her. We had a laugh. And now ds gets reminded when dd pulls her stunts. No drama. And a much better way to handle sibling gains than making an issue of it.

I am the youngest of four though so well versed in the stunts kids pull.

Haha thats a brilliant example, definitely need to sit back and chill and not create drama were its not needed, for the most part ds and dd get along great and dd does everything he asks

Ah @SkintAsASkintThing I don't know who I love more, your DD, DS or you! Brilliantly handled