How do you know which school mums to trust ?

[Lardlizard]

Or do you play it safe and trust none of them !!

The same as you know who to trust in the rest of your life. Observe them, instinct, from what they say in conversation and experience

Well, if you have anything that could be interpreted negatively, keep it to yourself I think.

I wouldn't blindly trust anyone. School mums are know for being bitchy and I myself found myself drawn into a drama because someone just like drama. I think it's best not say anything you don't want everyone to know, unless of course you develop real friendships with some.

I trust one of them and that is because I know her fairly well and she is a nice, respectable lady who doesn't get involved in any kind of gossip/drama/cliques at all - she has a professional image to maintain apart from anything else.

Reserve judgement until your kids fall out with one another. Then you'll find out

School mums are know for being bitchy

Really? So all mothers are bitchy? What a bizarre thing to say.

Trust them for what purpose - To look after your child? To be a good friend to you? To not steal your purse when your back is turned?

As above, I get to know poeple and use my judgement as per the rest of my life.

Are you looking for a murder accomplice? I don’t see how trust comes into it.

This is ridiculous OP. What is the difference between ‘school mums’ and ‘people’?

Are you planning on asking them to keep an eye on your life savings or something?

Trust in what way? To tell your deepest darkest secrets to or to let your child go and play at their house?
If the first, then the same way you'd trust anyone. If the second, presuming you have a young child, maybe invite yourself over as well the first time?

I only trust a very select few people, unfortunately life teaches you that, and mums at the school gate would not be my first choice of confidant but that’s just my personal experience.

Trust them in what way exactly? I live in a small rural village so everyone knows everyone and many of them are related in one way or another, I teach in a school further a away on the edge of the nearest city and there are many links between my village, the school and other ppl I know. I would be never “bitch” or “gossip” as such with anyone as there is always a way back to those you may be talking about.

If you mean to trust them with personal information about you or your children again then no I wouldn’t as ppl can’t help but talk most of the time 🤷‍♀️

Trust them how? - to smuggle stolen bullion for you?, to watch your kids for an hour?, with a £5 for the teacher collection?, with a secret from your past?

I've had kids at school for the past ten years - some parents are fab, some are pains in the arse - just like work colleagues, neighbours etc. There is not a secret evil parents club where they are waiting to tear you apart.
They are simply people whose children are the same age as yours who live in roughly the same area.

You ask some strange questions.
Yesterday was about extravagant children's parties. Today about not trusting people.
What gives?

mummyhaschangedhername presumably you, too, are a school mum?

Why are you asking such a weird vague question?

Are you living in Game of Thrones and querying whether you're a Ned or a Littlefinger?

Trust them with what? Your life savings?

‘School mums’ are just a subset of ‘people’. Use the same criteria you would with anyone.

I made lots of mistakes about what I told people. Stay 'friendly' as in chit chat and don't get personal.

What an odd question. I tend to trust most people unless they prove themselves untrustworthy. My experience has taught me most people- mothers particularly - are good, kind people.