Do you and your DH/DP make joint decor decisions?

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Just a random musing on this slow Friday morning as I'm perusing homeware websites and bookmarking things ready for our bathroom 'revamp'.

Do your DH's ever give their honest opinions on decor choices? I try and involve my DH as often as possible when it comes to our decor (I'm not talking about painting/wallpapering here as we live in a rental so are limited with what we can do) but 9 times out of 10, if I show him say, 4 or 5 different rugs and ask him which one he likes the best, or even to find some he likes and show me, I'm just met with 'they all look nice, you pick!' - which don't get me wrong, is great because I do have quite specific ideas/vision when I get my head in to a 'homeware project', but sometimes, his opinion would be nice so that I know I'm creating spaces that we both enjoy, instead of them perhaps only feeling relaxing and homey to me.

I understand that the majority of blokes have little to no interest regarding what cushions are on the sofa or what brand of candle is on the mantle, but do you think the men that don't 'help' (for lack of a better word) with decor decisions feel like it's more their wives home than theirs, given that 95% of the things surrounding them, their DW's have picked out?

God no, I pick stuff and that's that. Dh still thinks a new sofa is 350,i think he last went shopping in 1973.

It’s better than mine, who suddenly insists on a specific shade or colour for a room and doesn’t actually have much taste... he likes what I pick but often selects things from a bygone era which just irritate me.

It’s even better when he agrees my idea was nicer than what we have thanks to him ...

I ask him and he agrees, because to not agree would mean having a discussion that he has zero interest in.... does that count?!

Haha sleeping I love that! I suspect then that might be why my DH seems so blasé about the things I ask his opinion on!

I'm planning a complete redo of our bathroom over the next few months as it's been basically untouched with no 'homey' nice things added to it in almost three years, and I just know if i try and include him in the process I'll be met with 'you decide' 'your pick is nice' 'I don't mind' - bangs head against the table -

Yes. It's his money as well as mine do why wouldn't he want a say?

The way we do it is that I pitch decor ideas and he has the right to veto but also has to suggest something else if he does veto.

I spend a lot of time on Pinterest and generally browsing interior design stuff so I have some very clear ideas of how I want my house to look. He, on the other hand, doesn't really have any clear ideas but knows what he doesn't like.

So, it works when I say something very clear like... "We're having our living room decorated. I was thinking of this wallpaper, with this paint, a pink sofa from this shop, some cream carpet, these type of blinds. I think that will give a Victorian vibe but with a few modern bits".

He can, of course, come back and say he doesn't like the wallpaper or whatever but we've agreed that he has to come up with an alternative which I then have the right to veto.

It works well and the rooms I've designed so far look amazing so he generally just trusts my opinions I convinced him to have hague blue in our box room/library which he was very very very skeptical of and the decorator advised us against but it looks banging

Don't knock it, OP. Mine will get specific ideas occasionally that are awful!
Or even worse, declare he wants the bedroom painted green, then not get involved in which shade of green, so i am left making the best of a colour scheme that i wouldn't have chosen in the first place.
Mostly, he can be talked round, but he did go off and buy a piece of furniture that we really have no room for in the house that has been an eyesore ever since.

So, my DH has Views but also has no taste. So the way we manage this is I find three or four options I would be happy with and can work with and I give him the choice. That way he feels involved and I don't end up with something horrendous!

The only time I go off piste and buy something without consulting is when I know he'll love it - I went to a sample sale recently and came back with wallpaper. He liked it a lot, but I knew he would and I haven't shown him other wallpaper I bought for the downstairs loo which I know he'll hate.